the way you act is contagious to people around you

The Mirror – Jakob Greenfeld

Via the amazing Makoism

Misogi: Do Something So Hard 1 Day a Year That It Profoundly Impacts the Other 364 | by Sam’s Blog | Ascent Publication

I don’t really listen to podcasts, I never feel I have the time but I enjoyed this discussion on hunting and eating meat, being too comfortable, boredom, doing hard things, screen time and rucking a whole lot.

#225 ‒ Michael Easter, MA - Peter Attia

Currently re-reading Vicious Circle by Mike Carey. Am still feeling, just generally overwhelmed with work and homelife and the backend of being ill. Rereading something is about all I can do.📚

Played some Lego Jurassic World on the Switch with the kids today, that was a whole lot of fun mostly. I just need to relax a little…

Yup, definitely the conversion I’m looking for…

How I’m feeling.

Be Drunk by Charles Baudelaire - Poems | Academy of American Poets

You’re not selfish if you take the afternoon off because you’re tired or headachey or cranky or whatever.

On the contrary: you’re selfish if you keep working while you feel like that.

Yeahhh, I took the day off on Friday because I was not 100% and definitely felt guilty.

Source: Don’t work when you’re feeling less than 70% – Mike Crittenden

Creating a reading list.

A mixture of fiction, non-fiction, classics and new authors.

Setting a goal.

Starting this Sunday.

Sure. 20minutes a day. 10 is too short and 30 seems too much. Will use my Epilogue list.

Always Helpful, 146 - Nicholas Bate

Say goodbye to the ‘tiger mom’. Welcome to the school of jellyfish parenting

I feel this. In China too, so many of the students in my class have countless after school lessons/clubs/activities.

I read it in Alfie Kohn’s Unconditional Parenting too, which I really need to get around to finishing.

“Few parents have the courage and independence to care more for their children’s happiness than for their success.”2 In extreme cases, the “press for success” can reach a fever pitch, such that the child’s present is essentially mortgaged to the future. Activities that might bring meaning or enjoyment are sacrificed in a ceaseless effort to prepare for Harvard (I’ve come to refer to this process as “Preparation H”). The bottom line is never far from the minds of such parents, who weigh every decision about what their children do in school, or even after school, against the yardstick of how it might contribute to future glories. They are not raising children so much as living résumés, and by the time high school arrives, the kids have learned to sign up for activities strictly to impress college admissions committees, ignoring (or, eventually, losing sight of) what they personally find interesting in the here-and-now.

Since, L and I quite happily didn’t drink in August I’ve realised that sometimes, certain drinks completely mess with my sleep. Which is not on as sleep is something I valuely highly, even at the cost of getting time to myself. That said, sometimes just one is nice.

Looking at old photos of the kids. I have two thoughts…

  1. They’ve grown so much.
  2. I still wear that.

Your Kids Are Not Keeping Score - The Daily Dad

Really think about it. What’s the smallest number of hours you could work per week and keep your boss happy?

Funny this came up because we had a conversation at work and a colleague told me they felt bored. After a moment, I realized that I don’t ever feel bored. There’s always more I feel like I should be doing. That if I dared to feel bored it was because I wasn’t working hard enough or doing my job properly.

Mosquitos didn’t wake me up, but they kept me awake.

I remember when I was at university cough years ago and mp3 players were just becoming more common. I had one that had a SCREEN and was tiny. Now, we all use our phones of course. I still miss my iPod I think, though I do like the convenience of streaming.
With that said, I wish I could get my daughter a streaming music device for her to just listen to music, ideally with her Bluetooth headphones. Am looking at an old iPod touch maybe.

Explaining how to make a roux to the boy

The Enigma of the Eel: The Elusive Science of Earth’s Most Mysterious Creature – The Marginalian

And now I want to read a book about eels.

10 Reasons Forrest Gump is American Royalty

Enjoyed this talk about the the book and see, and feel, a lot of myself at the moment in it. Byung-Chul Han, The Burnout Society - YouTube

Wordle 448 4/6


Took a while but got there, aim high innit.


Chengdu, city of 21m, has Covid lockdown extended indefinitely - China - The Guardian

Sitting at my desk at 7am feels both better than being grumpy at home but also, overall, worse.

Now is now, it can never be anything else wrote Laura Ingalls Wilder. It’s all we have. We should never wish a minute of it away. Not even when we’re tired, when we’re excited about what’s next, when we’re frustrated with how things are going. We never get this moment back. When you find yourself rushing, remind yourself, as we’ve said, where you are rushing towards. And remember that someday you would do anything to get back here to this very thing you are wishing away.

Don’t Wish Away A Minute Of It - The Daily Dad