Colleague gave me these today! Such memories!

Wordle 213 4/6

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I like this pattern but got it before I completed it!

They Could Be Your Last Words – Daily Dad – The Blog

Mannnn.

11:12

This was intense.

20lb wall ball 53lb kb

Wordle 212 3/6

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So, in effect, the scientists believe we learn to forget some memories while retaining others that are important. Forgetting of course comes at the cost of lost information, but a growing body of research indicates that, at least in some cases, forgetting is due to altered memory access rather than memory loss.Source:

Why do we forget? New theory proposes ‘forgetting’ is actually a form of learning – From experience to meaning…

Wordle 210 3/6

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I’m spending lots of time overthinking this. How about you?

Coffee, catching up on Wodapalooza and leftover roast duck quesadilla for the kids.

Wordle 208 4/6

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Found this one tricky! Locking in the two at the start makes it easier in that there’s plenty of words it can’t be but the difficulty was finding words that fit.

Wordle too complicated? Try Letterle!

Letterle 2/26
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https://edjefferson.com/letterle/

Helping Lyra practise!

Wordle 206 3/6

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Two years today since we saw Mum and Dad. We were just lucky I guess that they came Christmas 2019.

Living abroad means there’s normally bigger gaps between seeing each other but now… Yeah, it’s hard.

1. Dinosaurs are kind of amazing! I realised reading about them always blows my mind. They were how big? They lived how long ago?

2. If I always put my phone down in the same place would save me hours of my life I believe.

• Lying in bed with the two kids this morning and thinking, ‘one day I’ll miss this’ and staying a little bit longer.

• Talking to a friend about aiming high today. The target is to not be annoyed with the kids and that’s it. Everything else is a bonus. I’ve watched some wrestling, listening to the BBC 6 mix linked down below, finished Wordle, made coffee and breakfast and now enjoying the screen enduced quiet around the home AND Elise finished her homework without a fight.

• swissmiss | Link Pack Always like Tina Roth Eisenberg’s ‘link packs’ but today there’s a couple of interesting links.

• This Twitter thread about things someone has learned by 40. Which is how old I am this year so I’m adding it to the list of things I want to do but probably won’t.

• Also, this list of ‘Movers and Makes’ by Hiut Denim. I remember when the founders of that owned a brand called @Howies who I used to love when I was a teenager. Ok, that’s a lot of memories.

• Finally these morning after mixes from BBC6 I’m discovering are awesome!

Wordle 204 3/6

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Coffee and Onitama

Kindle and spicy snacks.

Wordle 203 3/6

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Not everything that erodes your focus is bad.

Source: Execupundit.com: Focus Pocus

Happy New Year.  Here’s to more of the same in 2022

Source: More of the same

Games and discos

Do not count, just move
Let’s get this thing started
Hashtag Christmas abs

I feel it when I open my computer at home to browse Youtube, RSS or Twitter.
It’s the feeling that I should be working.
That I should be doing more.
I feel it as a mountain of a wave rearing over my head.
The weight of all the things I feel I need to do.

Unicorns, Jaipur, chocolate and beer to end off the first day of work.

In the spirt of may word of the year I walked home. #slow

Number 1!

Starting as I mean to go on. I sat and read all of this without opening new tabs or apps. #slow

Resolutions for a Life Worth Living: Attainable Aspirations Inspired by Great Humans of the Past – The Marginalian

Is there an easy way to just see people’s posts and not all the replies? I want to read what people have written but feel like posts get lost in all the replies!

I’ve been thinking about this a whole lot since I read it. I’ve shared it with a few people I felt brave enough to do so with. I talked it over some. I bought someone a travel mug with their words on.

I kept coming back to this line from this pos:

the price of higher productivity is always lower creativity

About how it applies to me in my role as teacher and a father and a husband who is always busy because there’s always things to do. Always.

“Productivity is a trap. Becoming more efficient just makes you more rushed, and trying to clear the >decks simply makes them fill up again faster… Since finitude defines our lives… living a truly authentic >life — becoming fully human — means facing up to that fact.”

That the price of always being busy is I never have time to think and ruminate some. I struggle to allow myself that. So this year the intention is to allow myself that.

So I’ve gone with slow as my word of the year. It’s actually on the list as slowly and I considered slow down but it’s all the same in my head. That’s what I’m going with.

And yes I need to read Four Thousand Weeks.
I’ll get it soon I hope.

Coffee and Uno

Got a massage from the blind masseur that my friend has been raving about for a long time. Was amazing and the sore muscles in my neck are feeling, well not sore anymore. Definitely not the fanciest place but for only £8/$11 for an hour, totally worth it.

The Wordle creator posting as Powerlanguage discusses the game and particularly the ‘one a day model’.

I love it as it is. I like being able to discuss it with friends which I can only do because of the way it is released.

reddit.com

As ever, I never write because there’s always so many things I’m thinking about and I never make the step to recording them. Mostly I start writing and never manage to hold my thoughts together well enough and then, it feels like the moment is gone.

We went to Claire’s yesterday and it felt like the Christmas I imagine. Which, I’ve realised, is the same as the Christmas I remember from when I was younger. Presents and too much food and watching tv and playing games and being around family all day. We kind of did that and in its own way it was perfect.

We watched Stardust because the final song was playing and now reading the book is on my list. Then we watched Serendipity which is apparently 20 years old and this morning I finished Matrix Resurrections (Austin Kleon - Intermissions).

As for now, I’m thinking of adding a commonplace book to my pile of journals we’ll see and working on my mobility.

Mostly, this coming year will be on trying to do one thing at a time. To be conscious in my actions. Something I find really really really hard. Especially when using my computer or the habitual checking of my phone.

This Christmas also marks two years since I saw Mum and Dad. It’s jus something that sits at the back of my mind and is one of those things I think about a lot.

“It’s not that we have too little time to do all the things we need to do. It’s that we feel the need to do too many things in the time we have” – Gary Keller​

The Imperfectionist: Wisdom for the end of the year

I wish OS X and iOS both had either System Preferences OR Settings. I often use search to find them on both and I think over a year I could probably save 30-40 seconds after I type the wrong one.

Escaping the Trap of Efficiency: The Counterintuitive Antidote to the Time-Anxiety That Haunts and Hampers Our Search for Meaning – The Marginalian

Again reminding me I need to read Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman. Though, I’ve realised that I’m struggling with reading non-fiction.

A Supervillain Origin Story in Wrestling Done Right: Cody Rhodes - YouTube

For Those I Love - I Have a Love (Overmono Remix) - YouTube

Love this.

So close!

I Asked 64,182 People About “Jingle Bells, Batman Smells”. Here’s What I Found Out. - YouTube

It’s funny because we’ve been talking about this recently as Elise has picked it up from somewhere.

22 Possible Goals for 2022 - Nicholas Bate

Lots to think about in this list.

One of the reasons I exercise is to keep up with the kids…

Yumo lost his treasured blanket somewhere out and about yesterday…

I’m sadder than he is!

NINE DARTER! | WILLIE BORLAND STRIKES PERFECTION AT ALLY PALLY! - YouTube

Makes me miss sitting in the lounge watching the darts on the telly.

3 Things The Most Productive People Do Every Day - Barking Up The Wrong Tree‘

Move. Screens. Nature.

Yeah. Going to at least try the first and last one next Semester.

At a giant soft play for Elise’s classmates birthday.*

*Elise goes to the school I work at so all the kids and parents know me professionally. One of the parents also has a child in my class. Also, another student of our school is having a party here so more kids that know me. Holidays?

10 lessons in productivity and brainstorming from The Beatles | by Tom Whitwell | Fluxx Studio Notes | Nov, 2021 | Medium

My take away is that I want some toast.

composing end-of-year poems out of the fragments found in her phone notes.

Going to try this later I think. Further to the the “Things I love list”

Source: Fragments of a year - by Courtney Martin

I forget who mentioned it but I’m really enjoying The Alpinist on Netflix. Thank you stranger!

Can anyone recommend a domain provider or doesn’t it matter which you choose?!

If I buy a new domain for micro.blog and start using it will everything “transfer” over. Does that make sense? So all my old posts will be available at the new domain?

Time of my life.

Not feeling it today but glad I at least moved a little.

20 burpees before. 5 during. 25 after.

Rewatching the last 2 episode of the first seeason of The Witcher in prepration for the 17th!

This morning I have tried to explain what “live” music is the kids and have listened to some drum and bass, punk and some reggae.

Normal dinosaurs videos will be resumed as soon as they are dressed.

Today was our work/friend’s* Santa Pub Crawl. We all went for the first place and the Lyra went off and the kids and I came home for pizza, Klaus and some Switch. Some people I was able to be honest and say, “Yeah I just don’t fancy it.”

*Where we live they are the same thing.

I struggle with feeling like I need some time to myself and not getting it.

We, as a family and I, as a father and husband and full time worker (7:30-4:30), simply don’t have the time for it. And after the kids have gone to bed never feels like quality time.

So do I need to stop expecting it? That I am not owed it then.

Maybe.

Weekend update

50 burpees done. Done in jeans because everyone else is napping.

The point is not to discourage you about being a parent with these descriptions, of course. You already bought your ticket and now you’re on the ride. It’s just a reminder: If you go around expecting this to be an unending series of Hallmark moments, you’re fooling yourself. If you’re comparing how you’re doing to what you see on television, you’re being unfair to yourself.

This thing is hard. Really hard. There are dark moments. There are moments when you think you’re the absolute worst. There are moments when you’ll be told you are in fact the worst. But you have to keep going. You can’t give up. You can’t despair.

They’re counting on you. And remember: it’s these moments that exist between the brighter, happier, more photogenic moments. Could you have one without the other? Maybe, but the former should make you appreciate the latter while you have them…and help you endure the former while you’re in them.

Source: Daily Dad

Currently reading: False Value (Rivers of London Book 8) by Ben Aaronovitch 📚

I’ve got so many books on the go but I don’t feel like I’ve got the mental capacity to properly read them. So I’m rereading this instead. I love these books. There’s talk of a tv adaptation which I’m still on the fence about. I’d rather it not be made than it be bad…

The Peter Grant Novels are: >The novel centres on the adventures of Peter Grant, a young officer in the Metropolitan Police; who, following an unexpected encounter with a ghost, is recruited into the small branch of the Met that deals with magic and the supernatural.

Weekend Update

1. Youngest was in our bed and kicking at 2am and then awake again at 6am. I’m still mostly calm.
2. Still 100 burpees to do.

Also, today marked 100 days of haikus*

I walked home today
And drew a heart in the dust
Love is everywhere!

*I missed a day but did two the next day and carried on.

Aims for the weekend

1. Remain calm
2. Do 100 burpees

While it’s hard to be away from your children, it’s also hard to be with your children. At least, for some of us, compared to our work. Because we’re good at what we do. What we do doesn’t talk back. We are rewarded financially, or with recognition, for our successes at work—often right away—whereas the time and energy invested in our children can be thankless. It is an exercise in delayed gratification that sometimes requires decades of patience. That’s difficult to admit, but it’s true.

Source: Daily Dad

A Tree a Minute: planting 1440 trees in a day As there are 1440 minutes in a day, and I love planting trees, I decided to plant a tree a minute for 24 hours. It was (swear meaningfully) hard.

A new Beau Miles video. Always love his stuff.

Considering asking Father Christmas for a vibrating watch that doesn’t need charging everyday. Currently use my Apple Watch but I basically only use it for a silent alarm and the time.

Portrait by Yumo (3 years old)

Feedback on Feedback – 3-Star learning experiences

Bookmarking

12 treasure chests in the golden age of CPD #2: Student Culture | Joe Kirby

Bookmarking this.

Day 82 - 92

Can you say Squid Game in Korean? TV show fuels demand for east Asian language learning

Volume 2 if my Zine, “Better out than in”

I know I’ve seen talk of Townscaper on here but just found the web demo via Kottke.

It’s lovey isn’t it.

Better Out Than In - Volume 1

A mini-zine.

1SecondEveryday. 50 burpees a day for 5 days of the week. Not sure why.

I’m still doing my one haiku a day. Even if I’m not posting them here, I do post them on WeChat for reasons I’m not clear of.

Anyway, my wife said that they are all so negative. I mean, she’s not wrong. It’s that that I want to write about and that’s always at the forefront of my mind. Kids, work, me, my (lack of) time to myself.

I managed a positive one yesterday but today came back around.

Stress bookended days Worst way to stay and finish Normal service resumes!

In other news, I’m doing 50 slow burpees before bed because doing a burpee challenge seemed like a good idea a week ago. Still in my work trousers.

Does that make sense? Breaking bad habits – elements of learning

I like the idea of trying this. What are my teaching bad habits?

How Adam Would Book… Keith Lee - YouTube

The first 2 minutes are awesome.
The last 19 minutes make me sad.
Would totally love this booking.

One page closer to a new notebook!

It feels 50-50 whether I put my label less plain T-shirts on the right way around.

Singing our song. Everytime by Britney.

At this point I’ve forgotten why it’s this song.

Elise skied for the first time today and really took to it!

You’re just trying to get them to behave. You’re just trying to get them to listen to you, to stop hitting their sister, to take school seriously, to whatever. So you speak firmly, even harshly. You’re tired, you’ve had this conversation a thousand times, you’re not as kind as you could be. You’re just joking maybe, just giving your honest opinion about this or that.

But you know what you’re doing, really?

You’re putting a voice in their head. That’s how this happens.

Everything we say, every interaction we have with our kids is shaping them. How we speak to them informs how they will speak to themselves.

Via Daily Dad

In other news, I’ve been trying to do no screens between 9pm and 7am.

It’s strange in that it feels good for me. At 9, I normally go to bed, read a bit and then pass out pretty quickly.

Except, work and family are pretty full on at the moment and I’m craving mindless scrolling.

Literature Clock

This is cool

The funny thing is, my wife wouldn’t consider either of these dishes spicy. Me however I do. Can’t stop eating them though.

Indeed, the mere expression “work/life” embodies a mistake: it assumes work and life are distinct. For those to whom the word “work” automatically implies the dutiful plodding kind, they are. But for the skaters, the relationship between work and life would be better represented by a dash than a slash. I wouldn’t want to work on anything I didn’t want to take over my life.

A Project of One’s Own

I’m quoting this because of that last line and because of something that happened this evening. Honestly, it’s not something I’ve been conscious of before. Though, on closer inspection it’s inevitable really. That is,

Speaking to my own children as I do my students and vice versa.

For me, it’s the toll of, trying to, show patience in the face of frustration and the weight of a thousand rolling around inside your head. For me, work and home are too similar in that respect.

A few days ago, on the way home from school, my nine year old son told me he couldn’t wait to get home to write more of the story he was working on. This made me as happy as anything I’ve heard him say — not just because he was excited about his story, but because he’d discovered this way of working. Working on a project of your own is as different from ordinary work as skating is from walking. It’s more fun, but also much more productive.

Source: A Project of One’s Own

Wandering around in a digital swamp is a pretty common way to spend an hour these days.

Alas, most of us would never consider doing this in a forest. Walking over to a tree because it looked sort of interesting, standing there for a minute, then wandering away. Tree after tree, for hours.

The thing is, the digital wandering is mostly a waste.

Aimless clicking | Seth’s Blog

Distraction log – Chris Glass

I like this idea.

Love/hate this daily word game. You have 6 attempts to guess a word. Letters are yellow if correct but wrong place and green if it’s in the correct place.

Wordle

Dear Teacher - by Courtney Martin - the examined family

Love this.

Oliver Burkeman: What if I never change? • Hurry Slowly

Can I make time to listen to this?!

Our current thing is to say, “3,2,1 freeze” and then you have to make a pose.

How could you possibly be patient? Or fun? Or supportive? Or curious? Or attentive… when you’re dead tired?

It’s impossible.

So what exactly are you doing on your phone, scrolling through TikTok or >tweets at 11pm? You should be asleep!

I’m been not using my between 9pm and 7am. It’s been hard honestly but I do feel better for it. I’m 2minutes late! Book and bed now.

Day 78

3, 2, 1 and freeze Single beautiful moments Phone down and heart open

Somehow these photos were taken at 6:45am.

Note for a colleague.

What It Is a book by Lynda Barry

Ok one more to the “I’ll never read it” list. I should make a category.

Note to self: Start using categories.

100 Things We’ve Lost to the Internet a book by Pamela Paul

Putting it on a list of books I’ll never read but I would like to.

Day 75

Introducing the Icelandverse - YouTube

via

The global streaming boom is creating a severe translator shortage - Rest of World

Amelie Lens at Atomium in Brussels, Belgium for Cercle - YouTube

Loving this.

Will hopefully get around to watching Shang-Chi this weekend after it was never released in China. Will see what Lyra thinks…

Time is not given
If we wish, we can make it
We have to make time

Today I was consciously trying to fight the feeling that being constantly busy is the only way to exist as a parent, husband, friend or teacher. As though if I’m not overwhelmed then I’m failing. When, actually, I suspect the opposite is true.

Haiku is mostly words from Daily Dad.

Eddie Kingston Got No Business F***ing Being Here

A wrestler talking about his struggles has me tearing up in the dark of a Wednesday morning.

father, husband, worker bee
father, husband, worker bee
ain’t no time left for me

Super Mario 3D World is considerably easier when I play on my own and not with the kids on co-op.

Also, grass is green, water is wet.

A Comprehensive Guide to 250+ of Apple Music’s New Mood and Activity Playlists - Crikey.

Day 58

The guilt is toxic
Never enough, never good
Scalds, poisons everything

Trying to do the best for my family and the kids in my class and also myself feels like an impossible task.

The guilt from feeling like I’m failing both is often too much.

Has anyone used https://boardgamearena.com to play board games online? Any good?

Yumo has just lost self-serving tomato sauce privileges. No single person needs that much tomato sauce.

Also, is it ok to just eat tomato sauce?

You have to go the way your blood beats. If you don’t live the only life you have, you won’t live some other life, you won’t live any life at all.

Source: James Baldwin on Love, the Illusion of Choice, and the Paradox of Freedom – The Marginalian

It’s 7am
Snacks, Switch behind the sofa
At least it’s quiet

day 53
high speeds, high spirits
screaming, laughing and crying
one more day at soft play

I know that smells evoke certain memories but I find certain songs evoke strong memories of the books I was reading at that time too.

Sting And Shaggy: NPR Music Tiny Desk Concert - YouTube

So happy to see Dune at an IMAX.

In a related post was this one about how what multitasking does to our brains and how as teachers we are constantly trying to do that. Juggling a multitude things that need to be picked up and dropped, at well the drop of the hat.

When we as a society begin to explore the rationality of the amount of work output we expect from different  employee groups of people AND expect it to be done consistently well, it is important to consider all the factors.Source: Flight Traffic Controllers & Teachers.

Love bombing.

I love by Alex Dimitro and then inspired I love by Courtney Martin who writes

Write one, too? Or even just a few lines?

I guess that’s tomorrow’s task now. Maybe you could do it too, just a few lines?

The board is finished. Long live the board.

Lo-ghost – Fetch Me In The Morning - YouTube

This track showed up on a playlist recently but somehow only has less than a 100 views on Youtube. STUCK in my head.

Elise and I discuss it briefly!

Don’t mind me, I’m over there, at 9am, crying at my desk.

Garlic with aubergine. Definitely not aubergine with garlic!

Can I just read now?

My migrations between other people’s classrooms in different schools reminds me to see our teachers as complete and complex human beings; sometimes tough and confident sometimes fragile and vulnerable. Sometimes walking through a private personal hell and sometimes joyfully living the best years of their lives.Source: Always Moving | Ben Newmark

The Imperfectionist: The life-changing magic of not tidying up

Records

Just write up my haikus that I’ve mostly just been posting on WeChat.

And my exercise for the last two months recorded on a giant whiteboard. I think we’ll clean it and start again on Monday.

Sure, Elise is learning to read and that’s amazing. But, I think I’m more impressed by how she can do an awesome job of the Beyoncé part of Telephone by Lady Gaga!

Follow Aaron Rolph’s 2700km bikepacking trip up the United Kingdom, taking anything but the shortest route.

Only half watching the story. I miss the UK countryside something rotten.

New idea: I will play any song the kids want again as long as they shout, “can I get a rewind?!”

Sad that Friday isn’t Ted Day.

21-15-9
Deadlift 90kg
Box jump
Toes to bar

10:46

This one was intense.

Day 41

I’m happy not being a massive audiophile but sometimes when I don’t realise I’m listening to a spatial audio track on Apple Music with my airpods is disconcerting.

Day 40

Can anyone recommend a Ted Lasso podcast?

Day 39

Maybe make a change
Maybe do the opposite
Will that be the spark?

Got my mug of dirty, brown water ready for the season finale!

This article on words of Korean origin being added to the Oxford English dictionary is interesting.

The OED said the inclusion of so many Korean words was recognition of a shift in language usage beyond the English-speaking world.

It makes me think two things. First is that always have some Korean students in my class and have learned that some words in Korean are borrowed similarly, but said slightly differently, in a Korean style. Like helicopter. Which reminds me of a Mexican girl who when asked her English name would say her name fairly flat but if you asked her her Mexican name would say it completely differently. As well that in our bilingual family, we sometimes just use Chinese words when speaking English without thinking about it. For example 鸡蛋仔dan zai，which is a kind of waffle the kids love.

That’s three things isn’t it.

Fireworks. Love this one that Lyra took

Cheese coffee is back!

We went back again for breakfast. So spicy. So delicious. We got there just before it got really busy, thankfully.

Day 2: Dark

9 years ago, 7 years ago and this morning. ❤️

Where are the kids? They’re too quiet…

Oh, they’re hiding behind the sofa playing Mario Kart.

Touch - October Photo Challenge

Last teaching day in the old building. Next week we move into the new building.

The only thing worse than there being a giant spider in the office…
There not being a giant spider, anymore.

They must be here somewhere.

This is for @gaby

From Ted Lasso’s talk of fathers, rewatching Arrival and it’s part about children, the book [The Garderner and the Carpenter] that I’m trying to read and my own mental health this week. I’ve spent too much time thinking of myself, myself as a father, my relationship with my wife, our relationship with our children and our own children.

It has been overwhelming. It is overwhelming. It will always be.

Sunday.

Hiding

(Apologies in advance, I have searched before asking!) I like the idea of using my domain for my email but can’t seem to get my head around custom domains with iCloud. I currently just have my domain registered, as that’s all I need for Micro.blog. If I wanted to use that domain for iCloud mail would I need to pay my domain registrar? I assume I would since I can’t see where to update the MX settings.

As a teacher, I’ve written countless reports. Today was the first time I’ve recieved one. It’s weird. Trying to read between the lines, thinking what this means about my child. Do not like!

Day 24

Day 23

Day 22

A rough day, today
Of my kids being themselves
Work weighing heavy

Day 21

Living While Black, In Japan is making me reflect on my time in China. Will I ever return to the UK? As well as the question I’m forever wondering, where’s home?

Day 20

Very happy!

Day 19

One of the things [Uncle Alex] found objectionable about human beings was that they so rarely noticed it when they were happy. He himself did his best to acknowledge it when times were sweet. We could be drinking lemonade in the shade of an apple tree in the summertime, and Uncle Alex would interrupt the conversation to say, “If this isn’t nice, what is?” So I hope that you will do the same for the rest of your lives. When things are going sweetly and peacefully, please pause a moment, and then say out loud, “If this isn’t nice, what is?”

I think about this a lot. Though not as much as I should.

How much do we do this? Think about, how, what we are experencing is, nice…

Not as much as we should.

Coffee and noodles for brunch

Dinner out

Day 17

烧烤！So good!

Day 16

The cleaner always sorts the papers on my desk and honestly it’s the best.

Day 15

Meet the World’s First Carbon-Neutral Soccer Club

Just up the road from where Mum grew up.

Day 13

Sunday wasn’t great
Caught up inside my own head
Time to breathe and smile

How much do you think about this country’s obesity crisis? I used to, but now I think more about the mental health crisis. I used to focus on physical transformation – leanness, body shape. But during the pandemic I realised that it’s with mental health that people need help and motivation. Without a healthy mindset and the energy you get from exercise, life feels a lot harder. If you look at exercise from a mental health perspective, the body will follow.

Joe Wicks: The Guardian

Day 12

Elise just gave me a thumbs up and then winked at me because she did some great eating. Which was weird.

Yumo is getting better! Not bad for 3 years old.

Working hard!

Morning jigsaws.

In other news one of my 7 year old students made me realise my chess skills are not really what I remembered them to be!

Doing jigsaws with Elise made me realise that being patient with students/kids who are learning is just emotionally taxing. Especially when it a your day job too.

Day 10 is sponsored by Ted Lasso and the song Risk It All by Ella Henderson.

Does anyone use Bitwarden?

I currently use Lastpass but undecided about paying or switching to something.

It’s 5:45am and I’m having a coffee and a little cry watching Ted Lasso.

Dealing with money stuff and other stuff I find stressful is difficult enough and more so when the only time I can do it is between 9 and 10pm at night when I really don’t want to.

Day 10

Beer and Splendor

Chilli cucumber!

Day 9 Yumo was looking over the back of the sofa, like a meerkat. Tigger and his blanket held tightly. Daddy? Yes Yumo? He makes a kissing noise with his mouth. Good morning Yumo

❤️

Day 8

The conversations I have with my kids. Where 东西 is Chinese for thing.

Him: 东西
Me: pardon? What do you want?
Him: 东西
Me: 东西吗?
Him: yes
Me: 你要什么东西?
Him: I don’t know东西

Good chat

Front squats 7x1

Day 7

Believe.

Didn’t think I had the energy but managed my first sub 20minute 5k row today!

Yumo jumps in too!

Volleyball!

Love that this coffee shop is so close to wear we live. ☕️

Day 5

Would often read Wirecutter for advice about what to buy, so sad to see it go behind the NYTs paywall.

凉面 is a Szechuan snack that’s cold noodles mixed with chilli and a few other things. So delicious.

Still no Dune release date in China.

Nooooooo

Last year I taught Year 1 (kindergarten) and had been doing so for 5 years. This year I’m in Year 3 (grade 2).

I caught myself noticing how different I act because of the differences in age. Only two year but a world apart.

Happy with that. Pleased that I was able to keep moving more. Getting older, getting fitter!

Ted Lasso day!! #believe

Day 3 at the dining table

A beautiful life…

Seven Lions - Returning to you.

Had this on repeat recently. ❤️

#TranceThursday

music.apple.com

Morning fights

Yumo likes to grab the tokens but it’s still nice to play. Good for Elise’s maths too!

I liked the colours of the fallen seeds.

Day One of Thirty

An aspirational list.

Back to School/Work: The Manifesto, 22 - Nicholas Bate

90 seconds faster than March!

Rediscovered Chrvches yesterday and that’s what been sent on repeat. A big fan of their vocalist and sound.

My sister and I are doing a haiku a day for September which I am absolutely sticking to this time… Probably.

Sundays amazing
Sunday is the worst, as well
Kids they will do that

The worst part about having kids is having to do all the things you want them to do.

Put down your device. Read a book. Go to bed. Say sorry. Be kind. Eat your vegetables. Be brave!

Today’s workout was fun and just what the Dr ordered. Just consistent work.

3 rounds

100m farmers carry 2x22.5kg dumbbell
55 skips
35 sit ups
25 goblet squats
15 calories Assault Bike

25:10

Monday is my busiest day by far with the added bonus of trying to be ready and trying to relax a little on Sunday.

How To Make Reading A Part Of Your Child’s Life – Daily Dad

The American cosmologist Carl Sagan once said that “one of the greatest gifts adults can give—to their offspring and to their society—is to read to children.”

So nice when they get on!

Foundation ⏤ Official Trailer | Apple TV+ Will be interesting to see what this is like. I haven’t read the books though.

Hanging about!

Photobombing Lyra’s selfie.

But if you’re at work, there’s not a lot of evidence that more stress is the best way to have less stress.

I said yesterday that, I feel stressed but I don’t know about what. There was nothing I could think of, at least. But I still felt that weight.

First full week back at work done. Of course, I don’t feel like I was good enough or doing enough and that I should be better and everything. It can’t be that, I always feel like that.

Maybe it was just that the weeks are constant in the way teaching small children is. That, there’s always something I could be doing. Planning, resourcing, contacting parents, displays, marking, sticking.

Yeah, maybe it was that!

Solving for stress | Seth’s Blog

This is the first photo I posted to Flickr on September 28th 2004. 17 years ago. 17. Actually, it’s a scan of a photo since it was before I even had a digital camera.

Scrolling through my photos is potent and such an incredible snapshot of a period of my life. That I can’t bring myself to delete my account. Even though, I don’t upload photos there and I rarely use it. Hmmmm

Hey Siri play The Black Album by Metallica
Sorry, I don’t know that album
Hey Siri play Metallica by Metallica
Sorry, I don’t know that album
Hey Siri play Unforgiven by Metallica
Sorry I don’t know I’m forgiven by Metallica
Hey Siri play Unforgiven by Metallica
Now playing The Unforgiven by Metallica
Hey Siri what album I this from?
This is the self-titled album Metallica by Metallica
Hey Siri play Unforgiven by he self-titled album Metallica by Metallica
Sorry, I don’t know that album

Things I’ve eaten recently.

The first one was amazing. The second is a regular thing we have. You pick the meat and veg you want and then boil it in a delicious broth.

Ministers accused of failing to secure rights of Britons with foreign spouses in EU

This should absolutely not be surprising to anyone.

Pre-Brexit, it would have been easier for me, a Brit, to go and live in the EU with my non-EU wife then moving back to the UK.

Today I’m grateful that none of the micro.blog people seem to follow professional wrestling. So, I can open safely while avoiding the rest of the internet for fear of spoilers!

Climbing, though technically I always did bouldering was one of my favourite things to do in the UK.

I liked that you could go and do it on your own. Just kind of hang out, work through some problems, unwind a little. On the occasions I did go with others, I like the social aspect of it that isn’t the same in climbing. It’s much easier for everyone to try and complete the same route, for example.

Anyway. Lyra and I went today to a place and it reminded me how much I enjoyed it!

(1) Worrying about what other people might think (2) The distraction of trivia and melodrama (3) The desire for perfection (4) Simply not being bold enough (5) Not having pen nor paper at all times (6) Believing things should be fair (7) Not starting. 

The Seven Greatest Barriers to your Best Work

Feeling this today, first week back at school in a new year level.

We’ve talked about being present before, but it’s worth repeating: The key to great parenting is presence. Being where you are, while you’re there.

Daily Day

I love my job, right
But in it, there’s elements
That stop me sleeping

Is that just me?

Day 5 - Her riding is so much better! Today she made her next step and fell off. We’ve stopped today but hopeful she’ll be willing to get back on again later.

Day 5

We’re all watching Ted Lasso right? Surely not a coincidence?!

New board!

Also, definitely noticed that I should have eaten something before exercising.

Day 2 with mum. Who needs helmets?!

Summer holiday workouts done. Back to school tomorrow. Hoping to maintain the consistency…

Day 1 of learning to ride a bike went pretty well! Mostly me that was the nervous one

Writing

Apparently yesterday was two years to the day that we arrived back in China after visiting the UK.

So, that means we haven’t left China in over two years！

An Italian Tourist Walks into an Olive Garden… — Trip Out

Reminds me of when my Chinese wife had a Chinese takeaway in the UK.

“This is not Chinese food.”

Asked Siri to play some music to go with morning coffee. So we’re listening to Linkin Park, System of a Down and Black Sabbath. Thanks Siri!

New passport…

Double rainbow!

The UK government website says 11 weeks for a passport renewal from China…

Except, we got the email to say it has arrived 19 days after we dropped off the form.

Fair play.

Chinese food.

There is no way Jamie Tartt would say, ‘blocks’ when refering to distance. There was another one but I’ve forgotten. That aside, the second episode was really good.

She’s taken them out.

“I want my teachers to do it.”

Day 2 daddy hair care. All on my own!

Day 1 Daddy Haircare: Lyra did it today as I couldn’t. Onwards!

I want more apps with a finite scroll, which respect, rather than seek to consume, my time and attention.

Daring Fireball: Brief Grief

Lunch with Lyra

Ignorance and the Curious Idiot

My Ted Lasso stickers arrived!

HITT in front of the air con because it’s hot.

FYI New Ted Lasso today!

Since UK passport applications from abroad are now all sent to the UK for processing. I’m continuing to nervously await news about E’s passport renewal. Obviously the first sign was that they charged me. No news is good news…

Phew.

Dune passes Chinese censors.

I know I’ve been watching too much Justified because I want to wear a cowboy hat, eat fried chicken and bbq and drink bourbon. I’m resisting the guns bit.

Brunch with a beer.

Despite everything at least the Olympics is in a very close time zone to me!

I like this responseto the writing prompt:

When the robots revolted, a sizable chunk of the human population outright sided with them. Not out of cowardice, but on account of genuinely agreeing with the stand the machines were taking.

I’m at this stage where I’m reading it a chapter at a time and only in a situation I can properly focus. I can’t bring myself to read it any faster. I don’t want it to end! And so much is happening in the story.

I saw a thread on Reddit recently about whether people take time to digest books after reading them and I’ve been thinking a about that a lot. Do I? Should I? It makes me think as well about how I’m grateful for the tv shows I can’t binge.

I find applying for my passports for the kids incredibly stressful.

Just applied for a renewal for my daughter. I checked and double checked* and hope everything we’ve done is enough.

*Except the location of the office. Apparently it’s not where it was.

At the top tier of just about any sort of endeavor, you’ll find that the performers have coaches.

Pianists, orators and athletes all have coaches. In fact, it would be weird if we heard of someone on stage or on the field who didn’t have one.

And yet, in the world of business, they’re seen as the exception.

Part of the reason is that work feels like an extension of something we’ve been doing our whole lives. Figure skating isn’t like school, but showing up at work seems to be. “I’ve got this,” is a badge of honor.

A coaching paradox | Seth’s Blog

I’m thinking about this in relation to teaching. When do I have the time to do all this?

Consistency > intensity

My issue is and has always been consistency. Life always gets in the way eventually. Plus I just don’t like working out on the balcony. I like to exercise but part of that is getting away from everything for a bit.

8am on a Sunday morning. Coffee on the sofa with the kids and having a cry at the end of Raya and the last dragon.

Finally got around to having a Chinese lesson.

I live in the country so feel like I should be doing more. It is just it’s not a priority as family, work, exercise and sleeping get in the way. It frustrates me.

Also, if only I moved to a country with an easier language!

Bit late to the party but Breath of the Wild is pretty good isn’t it?

“The Library didn’t only contain magical books, the ones which are chained to their shelves and are very dangerous. It also contained perfectly ordinary books, printed on commonplace paper in mundane ink. It would be a mistake to think that they weren’t also dangerous, just because reading them didn’t make fireworks go off in the sky. Reading them sometimes did the more dangerous trick of making fireworks go off in the privacy of the reader’s brain.”
• Soul Music

This popped up on Reddit.

Funny since I was reading this earlier too > Reading and Writing: A Reciprocal Relationship

Notifications Off! The Distraction-Free Benefits of Five-Hour Work Days

“When you are a social person like I am, have two kids as I do, and you also want to make time for sports, the load quickly becomes unsustainable. It is inhumane.”

Pro: I’m naturally waking up early and feeling good.
Con: So are my kids.

Italia 1990 World Cup BBC end credits

Hot pot.

Signal somehow sent a confirmation message to my Chinese phone number. It wasn’t working before. Amazing!

(No more using my old phone!)

Lijiang, China.

All the mushrooms 🍄

If you’re missing any garlic, I think I found it.

• I don’t remember the last time I used it.
• My bank accounts are ok.
• It’s ok. I can get quite caught up and stressed about things like this.
• I should look properly in all the places.
• Sorting out the shelves will now be easier.
• I found one of Elise’s missing toys.

Taobao is a Chinese platform for selling. 99% of the things I buy online are from it. It has everything you need and plenty you don’t.

It’s also, kind of, like a social media substitute. I was reading this article and it’s possible to just scroll and scroll.

Link

Coffee and book and dance lessons.

I am loving this book, I’m already feeling sad that the more I read the less I have left.

Also, I watched the trailer for the adaptation. Tom Holland! Daisy Ripley! Mads Mikkelsen! But I don’t think I’ll bring myself to watch it though.

‘Unnecessarily cruel’: how Australia’s closed border is forcing migrants to leave permanently

I do not know how I feel about this article.

I, we, are in a very similar situation. We were lucky my parents came to visit at Christmas 2019. Otherwise, we’d be heading for 2 years without seeing them. It’s now almost 2 years since we’ve left China, with no apparent end in sight. We’ve just sort of accepted that we can’t leave and won’t be leaving anytime soon.

Of course, it’s not that we can’t leave. It’s that if we did we wouldn’t get back in and then I would lose our main source of income.

Though, not seeing my family for a while is sort of normal for us.

The additional issue, for me personally, is that we live in my wife’s hometown. Most of the time, I’m ok with our situation and sometimes it’s really hard.

Photo by Yumo, 3.

Coffee and book and roller skating lessons.

• Last day at school - Which is always strange in our environment.
  
• Worked out and burnt my nose.
  
• Lunch with colleagues and didn’t drink.
  
• Got gifted Santorini
  
• Went to a theme park
  
• Had a salad for dinner
  
• Watching some more Lupin
  

Schools out for the summer!

The carry got tough but glad I stuck with it.

Though doing it in this heat was fun.

Album t-shirts are a thing but are book cover t-shirts?

I’d rather sip water all day and Lyra has this big water bottle to do that but I find it much easier to just occasionally down a big glass of water.

We finally decided to buy a Switch so I can play BOTW. Lyra wanted Just Dance and so those are the two games she bought…

View from a friend’s flat. This city manages to be incredibly built up but still has lots of greenery. (And golf courses.)

We’ve finally visited the theme park 10 minutes from our house.

It’s taken 7 years!

But it’s a kid visit so the big rides will have to wait.

Despite living in China and not Japan, lots of head nodding to this video titled 12 Reasons not to move to Japan.

Drum and Bass on a bike - loving this.

This makes me miss the UK. Funny the things that do that.

Work will subsidise a new MacBook!

Should I get a Pro over an Air? Did I need a Ram upgrade?

Too hot. 105ish in F.

Today I’m grateful for air con in the lift.

I’m so tired. Such a fun weekend but not relaxing!

Hiding in the hotel bathroom because it’s 6am and I’m wide awake but everyone else is sleeping.

Chengdu.

🐼

An odd day.

Kids have been themselves which has, at times, been overwhelming. But we’ve also travelled, had some delicious food, a few drinks and spent some time with close friends.

🍺

Chameleon on Apple Arcade is the worst. The simple jump with one press and change colour with another is ridiculous. It feels like it is breaking my brain.I’ve wasted far too much time picking it up and trying to complete the goals. Over and over and over. Highly recommended.

🚅

I love my daughter, obviously.
And it’s amazing how she effortlessly switches between 2 languages without a thought.
However, when she says chips when she means crisps it hurts. I’m not going to lie.

The parcel my sister sent from California to China 7 months ago arrived…

It arrived back in California.

At least it wasn’t lost?

Slowly getting some board games that are at the very least can be played with 2 people. So Lyra and I can play together. We picked up Onitama and then Splendor (Marvel version) arrived today.

Not bad actually!

I am so grateful that Mythic Quest on Apple TV+ is released weekly. I enjoy it so much more for that.

Coffee, noodles (not pictured), more coffee and some games with friends from work.

Loki is out this week! A nice surprise indeed.

The Daily Dad

As we’ve said before, our kids don’t owe us anything. It is we who are obligated to them, by virtue of our choice to bring them into this world. And yet how often do we, as parents, think about whether we’re making our kids proud? How often are we letting them down—with how we eat, what we say, where we work, or even choices we make in our personal lives? How often does that haunt us, the way feeling like a disappointment haunts them?

Arlo Parks: Tiny Desk (Home) Concert - YouTube

Didn’t realise she’s only 19. Wow.

Definitely better in a glass bottle. Reminds me of drinking in a similar fashion, stood outside a small shop when visiting Mauritius.

Seneca wrote that death isn’t just some inevitable event in the future. Death is happening right now, he says. The time that passes belongs to death, he reminds us. We can’t take it for granted. We only have so many summers at home together with our kids, as we’ve written. Only so many drives to school. Only so many graduation ceremonies. Every time they wear out a coat, every time they outgrow a pair of shoes or a pair of pants. Those moments mark movement. They are the hash marks of the homemade growth chart on the kitchen door frame. They tick off opportunities for time together that never come back. Don’t waste them!

Daily Dad

“I’m not saying we’ll live to see some sort of paradise. But just fighting for change makes you stronger. Not hoping for anything will kill you for sure.” —Leslie Feinberg, Stone Butch Blues. (Happy Pride.) 

> Laura Olin Newsletter

Still can’t bring myself to write in my new notebook. It always starts so neat and then…

Hi. I’m giving a colleague a notebook for the next academic year. I want to add some words In it. What positive messages, words could I put in it? Particularly as she’ll be taking on a team leader role for the first time. Any ideas?

FYI it’s not Wednesday as I thought, it’s only time Tuesday.

Looking down

Posters for Japan’s National Pillow Fight Contest - Spoon & Tamago These are cool but the pillow fight looks like dodgeball, with pillows.

Was playing games and having a beer outside just as I got a message from a friend that they were going into lockdown again. Feeling grateful I can do that.

“Darling, the internet isn’t working.” “Have you…” “Yes. Also, my phone is out of credit. Can you top me up?” “That’ll be why the internet is down. I’ll top you up and hopefully it won’t take long.” “What?” 5mins later, everything is back to normal.

That’s a ridiculous system.

Back after a week, felt good to lift heavy again.

This was not the right way to go it we got to where we need to be!

Lunch! Two different pancakes and cold noodles.

Long week. Will be happy when reports are handed in next week.

For all that your kid has been through this past year, and all they will go through in the years to come, you have to continue to believe in them. They are not broken. They don’t need to “be realistic” or settle. Every kid—your kid, even your unhappiest, unluckiest kids—can be something and someone provided they are given that one person who believes in them. Someone willing to gift them with expectations, to push them toward places they’ve never even heard of. Someone willing to be a fan, even when things are bleak. Someone who is willing to help and encourage and fight for them.

That has to be you. For your kids…and all kids.

Every Kid Needs This From At Least One Person – Daily Dad – The Blog

Trying to get some work done before the weekend is proving stressful. Grateful though for making myself exercise though.

I realised that Signal was blocked in China but didn’t realise that I can’t receive a verification code to my new phone on my Chinese number. Which means, Signal works on my old phone and MacBook but not my new phone.

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Also, I had to called the UK government to sort something out and while the automated system kicked me out during the first call, the second time the lady sorted the problem quickly.

New phone!

• Can’t get a Signal verification code.
• Not used to the not having a home button
• Or 3D press
• And I really need to sort my photos out

When the kids are grumpy just as you walk out the door to go to work is the worst.

We can’t let a bad day or a bad person get in the way of being a good parent. And we definitely can’t let them make us a bad parent. We can’t let these outside factors do more damage than they already do. Leave them at the front door. Away from the things and the people you really love.

Don’t Let Them Do More Damage – Daily Dad

Not quite sure this is how you do it…

Two bags dad.

If/When we leave China the lack of cheap, delicious noodles is going to be a problem.

Excuse the photo, new phone next week!

Tim Duncan’s Basketball Hall of Fame Enshrinement Speech - YouTube

“You showed up after I got drafted. You came to my island. You sat with my friends, my family. You talked with my dad. I thought that was normal. It’s not.”

Not a basketball fan and don’t really know either of these people but this quote but I liked this quote a lot.

As a parent and a teacher, how should I act and how do I want to be remembered?

Tim Minchin covers Ball Park Music ‘Exactly How You Are’ for Like A Version - YouTube

When Yumo stops saying “Daddy cuddle high,” when he wants me to pick him up will a sad day indeed.

Just had my second dose.

Kids are shouting.
I’m drinking coffee, making breakfast and listening to an “I miss Emo” playlist.
It’s 7am on Saturday.

⚡️

the examined family, Courtney Martin: ‘Hard conversations don’t fix hard things.’

That was something the comedian Hasan Minhaj told me his father told him to guide him in a conflict. Sometimes, it’s important you’re right and you stand up for yourself, and you take the consequences. Other times, it’s more important to be together, and you figure out which differences or conflicts you can let slide for the sake of a relationship. We have to do both at different times, sometimes in the same conversation!

Today was pull ups, lunges and then some time on the assault bike! Was fun because Helen and I were finishing at the same-ish time so ended up racing.

Starting and finishing

Sometimes the rule is:

You don’t have to finish, but you do have to start.

And sometimes the rule is:

You don’t have to start, but if you do, you have to finish.

When building a personal habit, it might make sense to embrace the first rule. You don’t have to run all the way, every day, but you do have to get out of the house and start running.

And when making promises to a group where trust matters, the second rule definitely applies.

Ha. 5 minutes later I read this.

That’s why kids can never “take away” from our careers or “hold us back.” They can’t interrupt our work because they are our work. We are always teaching them. We are teaching them that we care. We are being there for them. We are stating our priorities.

They Are Your Work

There’s plenty of extra work I need to do but after I’ve done my normal work and family stuff the idea of picking myself up again at 9pm just isn’t happening.

Which means the work is hanging over me and making me stressed.

20 back squats Row 4K 20 back squats

I hate running but I’ll always row.

Why time for reflection is the key to teacher CPD | Tes News

The CPD puzzle: why don’t teachers keep improving?

Yesterday was lovely, kids were at school* and Lyra and I went to IKEA in the morning. Then she went out and got a few things done.

But today was the opposite.

I’ve struggled with feeling with it. And I’ve got work I need to do, and I got some done yesterday. I’m feeling like I don’t want to do it if I’m not in the right frame of mind which is a change to the way I think. It’s something I normally get stressed about, that if I’m not doing it right now then that is a problem. I know in my head I always manage to get things done but still… I didn’t do anything today in the end but am feeling like I should have!

Try again tomorrow?

*Yeah, in China you get 3 days off but only one is free so you have to work two Saturdays to pay it off.

If you want kids who listen to you, you have to strive to be worthy of being listened to. If you want kids that spend time with you, be someone they want to spend time with.

If You Want Them To Listen – Daily Dad

Added most of the newsletters I wasn’t reading to my rss. Thanks @dancohen for the suggestion!

I think we’ve fetishized the idea that your job should be your passion. It’s ok for your job to just be a job.

From my perspective, a calling isn’t a job or an industry. It’s an activity or an impact. When you can identify your calling in these terms, you can start to imagine many ways for it to exist in your life.

Exit Interviews: Phoebe Gavin - An OpenNews project

Teaching Kids Kindness Prepares Them for Success - The Atlantic

Mads Mikkelsen, In Conversation

My approach to what I do in my job — and it might even be the approach to my life — is that everything I do is the most important thing I do. Whether it’s a play or the next film. It is the most important thing. I know it’s not going to be the most important thing, and it might not be close to being the best, but I have to make it the most important thing. That means I will be ambitious with my job and not with my career. That’s a very big difference, because if I’m ambitious with my career, everything I do now is just stepping-stones leading to something — a goal I might never reach, and so everything will be disappointing. But if I make everything important, then eventually it will become a career. Big or small, we don’t know. But at least everything was important.

Stopping to return a football that went over the fence.

“Football is life!”

Cal Newport, Study Hacks: The Neuroscience of Busyness

There was a time, not that long ago, when the standard response to the query, “How are you?”, was an innocuous “fine”; today, it’s rare to encounter someone who doesn’t instead respond with a weary “busy.”

Does the wiring of our brains play a role in this reality?

And

Like the subjects in the experiments reported in this recent paper, however, the best solution to these problems might often instead be to do less.

Less?!

Also, I don’t subscribe to see the responses but this question made me think:

What work would you do if your industry was required to treat you with respect?

link

Reasons to be Cheerful: When Italians Abandoned This Village, Refugees Brought It Back to Life

I don’t ‘call’ people, except my Mum.

I can’t even imagine calling/Facetiming the people I consider closest to me.

Living in another country, another time zone, even with COVID.

I still struggle with it.

That said, I appreciated calling Mum this evening.

We say some things.

“The kindest people are not born that way, they are made. They are the sounds that have experienced so much at the hands of life, they are the ones who have dug themselves out of the dark, who have fought to turn every loss into a lesson. The kindest people do not just exist – they choose to soften where circumstance has tried to harden them, they choose to believe in goodness, because they have seen firsthand why compassion is so necessary. They have seen firsthand why tenderness is so important in this world.” – Bianca Sparacino

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Sacrilegious for someone of my profession to say, maybe, but I don’t like giving people books unless they’re 1) books they’ve asked for 2) really nice editions of books they already love. Otherwise, it feels like giving someone work. “Did you read that book I gave you yet?!?”

Nobody wants to read a book - Austin Kleon

Elise’s Rules 1. If your piece is taken you can put it back anywhere on the board on your next move. 2. You can swap sides.

I like the browse sometimes while my class is looking for books to take out of the school library. Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been reading a few pages of “The Knife of Never Letting Go” by Patrick Ness. A YA book about a dystopian future where a boy, soon to be a man, lives in a world where everyone can hear everyone else’s thoughts. The Noise.

Anyone, I picked it up today since YA books are sometimes enough. Turns out a film came out this year too!

“Updating an Apple Watch Series 3 is a nightmare in 2021”

I like mine well enough. It’s useful for being a silent alarm and telling the time because that’s all I really use it for.

The Verge

Fred again.. feat. The Blessed Madonna - Marea (We’ve Lost Dancing) (Official Video) - YouTube

This video!

The new Marvel megatrailer: The Guardian

And, I don’t know about you, but there was a moment towards the end of the trailer where my excitement gave way to a creeping dread at the sheer relentlessness of its release slate. Marvel is a monopoly now. A juggernaut. There’s no use fighting it. Better to just go limp and let it stomp all over you.

Do exercise. Feel better.

Spain’s Four-Day Work Week Is a Game Changer

“The key is flexibility,” he adds. “Some workers might prefer to have four days, or others might prefer to spread their 32 hours of work across five days.

I can dream!

100 swings and 10 Turkish get ups. Just to get moving a little.

This popped up on the Dance XL playlist and I haven’t stopped listening to it.

This year we’ve had to lose Our space, we’ve lost dancing We’ve lost the hugs with friends and And people that wе loved All these things that wе took for granted (We’ve lost dancing) (We’ve lost dancing) If I can live through (We’ve lost dancing) This next six months (We’ve lost dancing) Day by day (We’ve lost dancing) If I can live through this (We’ve lost dancing) What comes next Will be Marvellous

Fred again.. - Marea (We’ve Lost Dancing

Today I’m grateful for Lyra taking the kids out so I can a little time and space.

So, obviously I’ve spent the morning tidying and sorting and rewatching Barry.

Took the kids to the theatre to see and adaptation of a Chinese book.They mostly loved it and I think it was a good experience for them. Was definitely a point when Yumo had had enough though.

As well, we were in a theatre with a few hundred people which feels normal for here but definitely not when looking at the rest of the world.

Elise knows how to use the camera from the iPhone Lock Screen. She just took this!

Rediscovering Enter Shikari through some of their concerts on YouTube and the first album I listened to.

Not sure what the family made of it when I put it on in the car though.

Today I am grateful for coffee.

As I am every day. I’m cutting down though. Coffee at work isn’t great. Quality not quantity!

Also, I’m going to do my gratitude posts in the morning. Evenings don’t really work for me.

What’s better for children: sleep or exercise?

the team examined the optimal balance between children’s physical activity, sleep, and sedentary time across the 24-hour day to better inform tailored lifestyle choices.

On a minute-for-minute basis, moderate-to-vigorous physical exercise was shown to be 2-6 times more potent than sleep or sedentary time.

One of my favourite ice lollies. In the UK we would call them Twisters but her in China they’re called “lots of circles.”

I can’t not say, they were much bigger when I was younger.

Today I’m grateful for feeling better then I have all week.

Summer is coming.

As I drove to work that I’d forgotten to brush my teeth. Then I realised I’d be hugging the kids instead. I’m ok with that.

Today I’m grateful for having some time without kids at home.

Lunch and coffee with Lyra.

Mum would call it ‘potching about’. Though a quick search doesn’t throw anything up. It’s where you’re just doing a bit of this and that around the house. With kids, I rarely get to do it. This morning, I’ve had coffee, put some washing on, hung some washing up, watched some Netflix, tidied the kid’s room a bit. I’ve potched about. It’s been nice!

More morning art.

So, sometimes I sit on a bean bag in the kid’s when they go to sleep. Recently Yumo has been getting out of bed to either give me a cuddle, to tell me he loves me or to give me a kiss.

Which is the absolute best and most frustrating thing. I love you too but go to sleep.

Today I’m grateful for having dinner with friends who understood that I was just really tired and not on top of my game.

There’s totally a difference between when chatting online someone says lol but isn’t really laughing and when you actually make them laugh. I can feel it!

Morning art

This Tiktok video about working retail really tickled me. Must have watched it 10+ times since yesterday. video

Kurt Vonnegut // “Nobody will stop you from creating. Do it tonight. Do it tomorrow. That is the way to make your soul grow… The kick of creation is the act of creating, not anything that happens afterward. I would tell all of you watching this screen: Before you go to bed, write a four line poem. Make it as good as you can. Don’t show it to anybody. Put it where nobody will find it. And you will discover that you have your reward.”

from https://www.nitch.com

Our flat is too small to watch TV at night after the kids have gone to bed, mostly I’m ok with it but it can annoy me.

Today we got take away noodles and went to watch Nobody at a place with a giant screen, a sofa and a decent sound system.

The film is ridiculous but fun

Got vaccinated yesterday! But then got frustrated with the kids not sleeping. Then got up before 6 to give myself a little time to myself where I wasn’t stressed. Has been nice.

Lyra: Let’s have pizza.
Me: OK. Which place shall we order from?
Elise: I WANT CHEESE PIZZA.

Enjoying James Hoffman’s second episode about the Aeropress - Understanding the Aeropress . He does a lot of testing. Really interesting as I’ve been using mine daily recently.

It started with a thing happening recently, then it made me realise something and finally I’m still sitting with it because I’m not sure what else to do.

The plan was only ever to go and work abroad for a ‘bit’. Though, to say it was a plan is, perhaps, giving it a little too much structure. So I upped and left the country at 8 weeks notice makes me think two things. In any case, I’m coming up on my 10th year out of the UK somehow.

To come back to my point, I realized that all the posts and articles of how lockdown/quarantine suddenly felt a lot like I sometimes feel. That living so far away feels a lot like being trapped at home. That separation. I have my life here but even after all this time I still feel like I yearn for my life back in the UK. Relationships maintained through chat apps particularly for me. Especially as I’ve been one to ‘call and chat’, Mum excluded of course.

Today is my brother’s and Jenn’s birthday and again it is just hard not being closer.

Episode 5 of Mythic Quest was something else. Quite the depature from the rest of the series.

Something about when the kids take photos of me.

咖啡☕️

There’s a bar near us. That is now closing. It happens a lot. Us Westerners (foreigners) like bars. Here in China people eat AND drink generally. There are bars but restaurants dominate. Generally.

It’s strange. I feel sad it’s closing. I don’t go there a lot but I’ll miss it all the same.

烧烤。

It’s weird how kids grow up.

Like, the physical stuff, getting bigger, walking and talking you kind of expect but the cognitive stuff is sometimes strange and disarming.

Elise freestyles but the microphone didn’t work so well.

Reading with Yumo

Morning routine of shower with cold water to finish, meditation and then coffee and Chinese practice works so much better when the kids aren’t up before 7.

The challenge will be doing those things when they do!

Started the day well and feel like that carried me through the rest of the day until I exercised after work.

Before and after. Took a year but I finally got it cut.

Ok, totally into The Falcon and The Winter Soldier now. That ending, crikey.

Also, one house of Zemo dancing

Can’t wait for Loki after watching the trailer. Much more my cup of tea compared to Falcon and the Winter Soldier.

Going away with the kids is always “fun” but hotel breakfast makes up for it!

Walking home

Lovely evening. Played a couple of games of Splendor and a first game of Catan. Watched the latest episode of AEW Dynamite and had a few beers.

If this isn’t nice!

We did try to find a name we liked for our second that started with V so that our initials would spell L.O.V.E. but couldn’t find something.

Jump!

When you’re simultaneously annoyed at your child but also realise you need to console them.

For example when they did something you asked them not to and it ended in tears.

Is there a quick way to share a website I’m looking at on Micro.blog? There’s nothing on the share icon in Safari…

Interesting conversation with E about why she can speak two languages. She’s not really sure, maybe it’s her teachers? So jealous of her sometimes! Switching effortlessly between two languages is all she knows.

I’ve stopped eating poached eggs.*

*When Y is around as he always wants to eat all of them.

E decided to join us today. She’s going to read for 7minutes a day.

Day 3 done

Once again, the only thing that I’ve needed to change was myself.

Hopeful that the new morning routine of cold shower (after hot, obviously), coffee and reviewing my Chinese will start to stick.

It will no doubt get me into trouble with the medical profession, but it is not too much of an exaggeration to say that you can eat as much as you like, drink as much alcohol as you want, slob about as much as you fancy, fail to do your exercises and live in as polluted an atmosphere as you can find, and you will barely notice the difference. But having no friends or not being involved in community activities will dramatically affect how long you live.

This Is How To Make Emotionally Intelligent Friendships: 6 Secrets

6x 500m with 3 minutes rest in between each set.

Rowing is the devil.

Our teaching team had 31 parent meetings. 31!

So much sitting on small chairs.

Zen Habits

At the end of a day of work, there can be a simple practice of wrapping things up and shutting down for the day.

But so many of us feel guilty at simply stopping, and this feeling that we should be doing more … it drives some of us to keep going as long as we can.

This can lead to overwork, burnout, tiredness, and never letting ourselves enjoy a moment of rest.

Do you relate to this guilt of simply stopping and resting?

When you recommend something in a game but it fails… Oops. I’m also very sorry for what I did.

Grandparents are in and we’re out with friends staying in the hotel we got married at.

Also, this photo from last night.

We go out to eat with friends a fair bit and I always find it difficult. I want to to go out with friends but find the kids being themselves stressful. So, now I just accept it and we take toys and I spend time with them.

Daddy exercise became family exercise.

Sit ups because high five sit ups. Squats and tuck jumps they did themselves.

It’s all good. Before, I think, it would have frustrated me.

I never used to lie in before I had kids.

Now that I have kids. I can’t.

This message is brought to you by getting up at 7am on Saturday.

From Austin Kleon whose blog is, if you said I could only visit a few websites would be up there.

Also, Kottke’s, another favourite website, reply:

Yes, this. But also: I am torn between a) the knowlege that I need to cut myself some slack and b) the continuous criticism of myself. Working on it!

China is maybe changing tax laws next year which may have a big impact on me. Clear as mud.

Always interesting the cultural differences that pop up when you marry someone with different life experiences.

For example today, Lyra looked at me like she didn’t know me when I made a chip butty at dinner.

I miss a proper chippie dinner with some bread and butter!

I do like reading through the Discover timeline. Especially after reading the recent articles on Facebook and it’s misinformation addictjon

Baltimore restaurant owner drove 6 hours to cook for customer with cancer - The Washington Post

Who’s cutting onions?

I spent some time last night writing down the 8 rules from the link I posted yesterday.

Two things happened to me today as I was driving that made me feel good.

1. A car pulled out of front of me, this much is normal round her, but instead of having to force myself to be calm. I just was.
2. After the gym today, I wasn’t overwhelmed by feeling good. It just was.

Talking to Rich about albums and he gave me this list. Which I intend to get through eventually, maybe starting with the ones I know I haven’t listened to.

Dj Shadow - Endtroducing
Massive Attack - Mezzanine
Chemical Brothers - Dig your own hole
Leftfield - Leftism
Amon Tobin - Permutation
Daft Punk - Homework
Bjork - Homogenic
UNKLE - Psyence fiction
Portishead - Dummy
Orbital - In sides
Photek - Modus Operandi
Goldie - Timeless

Eight Rules

These make sense to me.

Do not run away from the thought you may be an idiot as if this were a rare and dreadful insight. Accept the certainty with good grace, in full daylight. You are an idiot but there is no other alternative for a human being.

Success at School vs. Success in Life

“We need to be outwardly entirely obedient while inwardly intelligently and committedly rebellious.”

Is there a simple way for me to make my archives page something other than the giant list it currently is? I just wanted to find something from a year ago and just had to scroll a lot, are there other options?

I wrote this mini-book a year ago today!

It was the start of us coming out of lockdown.

Yet a year later, while we go about quite normally things are still ongoing around the world.

So proud of Elise. She played “car dj” using my phone to play tracks off her playlist and we listened to 3 WHOLE songs. Not 10 seconds of many songs. So proud.

Haim - Rock and Roll Rules Shakira - Try Everything The Rainbooms - Rainbow Rocks

Put Roni Size - New Forms on in the car today and no one complained.

Following up with Goldie - Timeless and rediscovered 4 Hero’s album Two Pages which is just amazing.

What are you missing?

Glamour.com

“We didn’t know it was bad, because you seemed okay,” my daughter said. “And if you are okay, then everything else is.”

Parenting in this pandemic has felt like I am the only barrier between my children and the cliff’s edge of the world.

Via Metafilter

I’ve been trying to use my phone and computer less.

Most notifications have been turned off. I’m trying to pick it up less but it’s hard. To be more conscious in my use of both.

But it’s hard.

We organize our lives to maintain the pressures and boundaries we’re used to. We’d like to pretend we’re just going to bear with it until we get through this urgency, but we’re usually lying to ourselves.

A new habit takes at least thirty uncomfortable days to form, and a new habit is unrelated to the external forces (positive and negative) that we’re so good at finding and embracing.

[https://seths.blog/2021/03/oh-the-places-youll-go-back-to/](https://seths.blog/2021/03/oh-the-places-youll-go-back-to/

Album Update

Jon Hopkins - Immunity
Anthony and the Johnsons - I am a bird now

Question is, is posting what I’m listening to affecting what I’m listening to?

swissmiss: Home

“Home is not where you are born; home is where all your attempts to escape cease”.
― Naguib Mahfouz

Seth Godin: Resilience

Resilience is a commitment to a design, an attitude and a system that works even when things don’t turn out the way we planned. Especially then.

There’s more and more smaller coffee shops in the city. Often they’re “Internet famous” for their decor and full of people taking photos of themselves^ but if the coffee is good I’m ok with that.

^Obviously it’s different if we do it!

Didn’t buy it but after messaging British friends will buy one next time FOR SCIENCE!

(It’s not going to be nice.)

How stressed I am seems directly related to the number of times I press the key fob to lock the car.

1 - as good as it gets
5 - normal levels
10- pretty stressed
10 times and then walk 5 minutes and turn round to go back and press 10 times - pretty bad

China has employed blunt but effective quarantine measures to contain Sars-CoV-2 successfully, and life in the country has largely returned to normal. Though it authorised its first vaccines for emergency use in July, just 4% of the country has been vaccinated so far.

“One of the most important contributors is this perception that China has a low risk of infection,” said Yanzhong Huan, director of the Center for Global Health Studies at Seton Hall University in New Jersey. “So people think, why bother to get vaccinated? We’re already safe.”

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/mar/17/why-covid-vaccine-home-produced-india-russia-china-slow-start

I find myself thinking that too.

We’ve yet to hear anything from work, who would be our go between for us getting the vaccine, about getting vaccinated.

But while we haven’t, we’re going about as normal… Going to work, going out, not really thinking about infection.

Of course, it’s frustrating not being able to leave the country to see family but…

Power Trip - Live in Seattle (Thrash metal but I read an article about them and had a listen. Was a nice warm up for the day.)
Black Sabbath - Black Sabbath (Gym)
Slipknot - Slipknot (Gym)
Sam Smith - In The Lonely Hour (post gym)
Bon Iver - For Emma, Forever Ago (Working)
Maximo Park - Nature Always Wins (Saw it browsing Apple Music, a blast from the past)
Metallica - Master of Puppets (Commute)
Various artists - Dark Was The Night (Jenn got me onto this 12 years ago. Still like it, especially the Yeasayer track.)

5 rounds 15 one arm kettlebell swings (since I didn’t have a heavier kettlebell) 15 burpees

10:41

Then after

5x10 seconds on the Assault Bike

Hence the lying down. 10 seconds can be a long time.

Morning cuddles

The morning between getting up between 6:10 and leaving at 7:10ish is all about feeling like I need a little time to myself and often spending time with the kids. And, honestly, it’s a battle sometimes.

1 mile run. 2k row. 1 mile run.

Nice and steady. Still feels strange to run but got it done.

Temperatures are rising too, 23 today.

FaceTiming nainai and Elise was talking about her day.

Apparently her new phrase is, “boys are mad.”

We’ve been told we can leave our province during our Easter break. Woo! Still no idea when we can leave the country though.

(It’s good because we’ve already booked a holiday.)

The Strokes - Is This It? Red Hot Chilli Peppers - Californication Alt-j - An Awesome Wave Future Islands - As Long As You Are

Continuing with full albums. Got my first recommendation of Future Islands. Which is right up my street.

Looks like a nice spot to sit.

Album 2.

Keaton Henson - Birthdays

I heard on of the tracks on Sherlock (the US version) and apparently listened to this album a lot in 2015.

But it’s the track ‘You’ I’ll always come back to.

If you must die, sweetheart
Die knowing your life was my life’s best part

And

If you must work
Work to leave some part of you on this earth
If you must live, darling one

Just live

Today’s new idea that I just thought of but haven’t thought through.

This week, I’m going to listen to albums.

Starting with Way Out West and Intensify.

I’m currently reading Exhalation by Ted Chiang. One of the short stories involves the interactions between a missionary and a child he has met. They talk about writing.

“Moseby explained to Jijingi how each a person spoke could be indicated with a different mark on the paper. The marks were arranged in rows like plants in a field you looked at the marks as if you were walking down a row, made the sound each mark indicated, and you would find yourself speaking what the original person had said.”

Then words.

”… But you need to leave spaces when you write.” “I have.” Jijingi pointed at the gap between each row. “No, that is not what I mean. Do you see the spaces within each line?” He pointed at his own paper. Jijingi understood. “Your marks are clumped together, while mine are arranged evenly.” “These are not just clumbs of marks. … Where I come from, we call them ‘words’. When we write we leave spaces between the words.” “But what are words.” “How can I explain it?” He thought a moment. “If you speak slowly, you pause very briefly after each word. That’s why we leave a space in those places when we write. Like this: How. Many. Years. Old. Are. You?” He write on his paper has he spoke, leave a space every time he paused. “But you speak slowly because you’re a foreigner. I’m Tiv, so I don’t pause when I speak. Shouldn’t my writing be the same?” “It does not matter how fast you speak. Words are the same whether you speak quickly or slowly.”

It just struck me.

As a Year 1 (kindergarten) teacher, these are things we support students to learn every day. It was interesting to see a discussion that included someone who had never been exposed to the idea of writing or ‘words’.

If this isn’t nice.

Let’s talk about why I didn’t capitalise the last e.

It’s taken my 4 days but I’ve finally finished watching the AEW’s PPV.

Pleasant hour playing pool with Lyra.

I’m not sure I totally trust microwaves that don’t spin around.

Been listening to this a lot lately.

Though, still no closer to getting around to working out how to ask Siri for it.

All I could think of in the final episode of Wandavision was when Po fights Kai in the spirit realm in Kung Fu Panda 3 and he gives him all the chi and Kai can’t deal with it.

My take away is that, as a parent, most of my references at the moment are kids films.

Played Splendor (Marvel version) for the first time at lunchtime and then a unicorn sparkle game when I got home.

Though had to spend 15minutes looking for one of the die for the unicorn game before we could play. We’ve had the game two days…

testing1

The worst app for distracting me on my phone is the web browser.

4 episdoes of For All Of Mankind in a weekend is basically as close to binging as I’ll get.

Also, if I had to sum it up in one word it would be: smoking. So much smoking.

Started taking photos with Lyra’s old Sony camera. It’s kind of fun actually. I like it. Though, I have to use her old Macbook Air to take photos off the memory card as I’ve no way to do it on my Macbook Pro.

Just finished Here We Are (Notes For Living On Planet Earth) on Apple TV+, a kid’s program based on Oliver Jeffer’s book of the same name.

Really fun! Elise noticed that it was based off the book straight away, they use the same stylings and include everything in the book.

Enjoyed the 1st episode of For All Mankind. Especially as our Year 1 (kindergarten) class has been learning about space.

Gamers. Is a Switch still worth buying? 🎮 🕹

Am aware of our good fortune of being able to meet friends for dinner last night and Elise being able to have a birthday party today.

Feeling very up and down this week between work and kids and everything feeling a bit too much at times.

Slept better. Felt better. Had a morning cuddle.

Me: Do you want some more avocado? Elise: (sad voice)I just really want unicorns to be real.

🥑 🦄

Some time to not rush.

“The idea of “boundaries” has become so porous when it comes to cultivating work/life balance that it’s lost all meaning. People don’t respect boundaries. You don’t respect them. Even when the pandemic is over, it’s going to be very, very difficult to try to rebuild them. What we actually need are guardrails, big and sturdy ones, to protect us from the runaway semi-truck of work.

In our current framework, boundaries are the individual’s responsibility, and when they’re broken, it’s because the individual failed to protect them. But guardrails? They’re there to protect everyone, and they’re maintained by the state, aka your company. There are a lot of ways to actually build guardrails around employee’s lives,”

https://annehelen.substack.com/p/imagine-your-flexible-office-work

It started with Lyra, we’d say “I love you more than (thing that I really love - coffee and bacon for me, spicy food for her.”

Only Elise it has somehow changed to.

Elise: “I love you more than coffee for you.” Me: “I love you more than unicorns for you.”

If this isn’t nice.

Lyra’s birthday so she’s organised a big party for her and the girls. She’s going all out and is very excited. Me and the kids are going to watch tv and eat snacks until she gets back tomorrow.

It’s not a workout if you don’t take a selfie or track if…

Heavy deadlifts yesterday and 4K down the hill and back up this morning.

Started to think running isn’t so bad…

This article makes me miss the UK something rotten. 12 of Britain’s best new campsites and glampsites - Camping holidays - The Guardian

Yumo tends to speak to me mostly in Chinese, even if he mostly understands what I say in English. Sometimes though he’ll use Chinese and English in a sentence.

E.g. when reading he said - me jia you, which means ‘me house has that’ so starts English and switches to Chinese

Cold shower challenge.

Day 1: Ridiculous. 10 seconds. Onwards!

It started with my sister saying she was doing a challenge of going in the ocean every day and she got mum involved but they live in places you can do that, whereas I don’t. Then I read Leo Babuta’s post on ‘What I Learned About Facing Fear from Cold Swimming;’ which he is doing as part of his ‘discomfort challenges’.

So, as I was meditating a couple of days ago I put 2 and 2 together and got 4 but maybe 5 and decided cold showers should be a thing this week.

My bedtime routine involves meditation, some water, the Apple Music bedtime beats playlist, some reading and losing my patience with the kids because they won’t sleep.

Big takeaway was Elise was braver than we thought she’d be. Yumo had to deal with not being big enough for some of the rides.

Went for my first run with Helen today. - We didn’t anticipate waiting so long at pedestrian crossings. - But that meant we took it easy. Which was probably for the best. - Also we finished at Starbucks. - Then went to McDonalds. - But the weather was nice and it was good to get out.

🎡

Wandavision, eh?! So good. Now, I just need to watch it all again.

Fun to read online discussions about it though.

Local green plum wine served in the classiest of vessels.

The Daily Dad linked to Maggie Smith’s Poem called Good Bones and I’ve got it stuck in my head.

Life is short, though I keep this from my children.

I liked yesterdays Daily Dad

It’s not fair to subject your kids to all the things that have broken your heart in this world. It’s not fair to let your experiences deprive them of the hope and belief they need not just to survive but to be happy.

We have to stay positive. We have to keep trying. We have to remain strong—against the pull of bitterness and anger and hopelessness.

It makes me think of a couple of things that often come to mind. The first is them knowing my fears, or the things that I find difficult. The second is how I’m feeling and how they are aware of that - particularly the negative emotions.

Hill sprints with added weight*.

*Weight was one child and two badminton rackets.

Today was going to be me sitting alone doing stuff but has turned out to be sitting with people. And all the better for it.

This mornings movement.

Hot pot at friends.

Today I am grateful for the lady who had an appointment but let our kids get their hair cuts before her kids, which I totally didn’t expect.

Also, the kids are getting hair cuts so maybe I should too…

Hey Micro.blog if you haven’t watched Detectorists I think you should, it’a a British show about some metal detecorists and it’s nice in the best possible way. I think it’s on Amazon Prime. Here is a dodgy trailer, all the others the suggested videos were spoilers.

Morning workout with Lyra, kids joined later because the only time they don’t want to watch tv is when you want them to. Obviously.

Carole King’s Tapestry is 50 year old but I can still listen to it. For me, it reminds me of Mum and Dad playing it in the car. Which makes me think of road trips to France and staying in a tent or that time we stayed in Dad’s colleagues holiday home - I remember reading James Herbert horror novels because that’s what was on the shelf and the supermarket playing 7 Seconds by Neneh Cherry and Youssou N’Dour.

Other albums/artists I think about in the same way are by Kate Bush, Elton John and The Eurythmics.

Only 3 more episodes of Wandavision which doesn’t feel like enough… Latest episode was very interesting!

Signed up for the Fitness+ service but apparently I can’t Airplay to my old Apple TV 3. Which is hugely disappointing. I just get audio but no video.

Busy day.

Safari park this morning/afternoon. Then some time at Lyra’s uncles before dinner with her extended family. Lots of thoughts about dinner that I would like to put down.

Morning workout

swissmiss, swissmiss: The Good News

They don’t publish
the good news.
The good news is published
by us.
We have a special edition every moment,
and we need you to read it.
…

– Thich Nhat Hanh

Coffee grinder handle was in the bathroom, obviously.

Our Chinese New Year holiday started today with me being confused because my alarm was going off. Took me a moment to realise what was going on.

Ummmm, apparently people at work think this…

When it’s not even 7am and your Apple Watch is telling you to breathe.

Monday night! Whoop!

Daddy cuddle!

When I don’t get up because until the last minute because trying and failing to have five minutes to myself before work with two small children around is hard.

I just spent some real money and I can’t remember the last time I did that.

A little hungover today. Not too much that it meant I couldn’t go out but just enough that going out was, occasionally, not fun.

I’ve got my photo-taking workflow pretty well sorted now. 1. Go somewhere with Lyra. 2. Let her takes photos. 3. Airdrop them to me phone when we get home. 4. Send them to Mum and friends.

We caught up with the latest 2 episodes of Wandavision last night. Such a change from the first 2.

A walk out to have lunch, then naptime and then wine with some friends. Today was nice.

80rmb/£9/$12 with 300 games. A little bit tempted…

Facebook’s misleading campaign against Apple’s privacy policy

I’d be quite happy with a much smaller version of Facebook that allowed me to keep in touch with friends and family without all the privacy busting. I’d even pay for the privilege so I stopped being the product.

We be consistent
Because we old and we creak
But we still want abs

First attempt at Helen and I’s fitness creed.

That episode of Tokyo Diner was just what I needed after such a full-on day at work.

A choice, this or that
Time for you or time to sleep
Feels like, dreams or dreams

Getting time to myself or getting enough sleep. It’s one or the other.

Dug out a grinder I got given. Not the fastest but good enough.

Who am I to not let the kids help?!

Just got back from a Royal Rumble viewing with some people from work.

Was good fun. I like watching professional wrestling but was good to do it with other people.

Did some running because I don’t like it and that is why I did it. Tried to keep up with Helen and couldn’t. It was fun!

“This would be a cool place to come and work!”

We caught ourselves saying that today and realised that we should come to do something for us.

Our first no work-work club will be meeting soon!

Name and location to be confirmed.

gone away, away
i’ve come back down and settled
like sand in the sea

I remember reading about meditation being like letting mud, or was it sand, settle in water so that things become clear again. I’ve always carried that with me.

Coming away yesterday without the kids, having some time, not feeling stressed or letting anxiety muddy the water has been, nice, lovely, just what I didn’t realise I needed.

If this isn’t nice.

Hot Pot!

No taxis, it’s ok
I’ve had a drink, feeling fine
This man will take us!

We’ve gone away but couldn’t get a Didi (Uber), I mean we found one but he didn’t show up in the app so he wouldn’t take us. A shopkeeper overheard us and he took us for an inflated, for China, rate.

Deb from Napoleon Dynamite…

Our initials…

I prefer YELO though I think.

We had a conversation before Yumo was born that if his initial was V our collective initials would spell LOVE but it never happened.

Today in parenting.

Most stuff is trial and error. Though somethings, in hindsight, seem obvious.

Like not letting the kids run around just after eating. I’m not sure Lyra appreciated me laughing as we cleaned up vomit in the shopping centre.

Live and learn!

What’s your reasoning behind such a long passcode for your phone? Security?

Of a sort. My daughter learned my 4 digit and then it was kind of an arms race.

We do some more reading.

https://vimeo.com/313725613

After losing his leg to cancer as a young adult, Jon Wilson struggled with feeling broken. Challenging himself in the outdoors presented a possible remedy. Today, crutching up and skiing down mountains at night provides a distinct backdrop for Jon to explore, accept, and embrace the idea of “brokenness,” allowing him to find a more sincere, vulnerable and honest connection with life.

It’s ok to be broken. After all, the real power of being broken is knowing you can survive it again.

This brought tears to my eyes.

I broke in my own way in my early twenties. As he says,

And while I would never wish it on anyone, I would never trade in my scars,

Yup.

Without what I experienced I wouldn’t be the me I am today. The me I am, mostly, proud to be.

I’m watching Ted Lasso again.

I pay for Apple Music and also 200gb of storage. If I subscribe to One Family do I then need to cancel my storage as well?

The funny thing is all I ever wanted I already had
There’s glimpses of heaven in every day
In the friends that I have, the music I made
The love that I feel, I just had to start again

Hospital for souls - Bring me the horizon

Neither of us was 100% on Monday but back on it today! 1minute cardio (run/bike) 1 minute rest but I started a minute later.

No idea of metrics just tried to work hard.

Team Consistent!

Hey! This is your Trance Thursday reminder for tomorrow. Maybe let’s do a theme tomorrow? Favourite old track? Favourite new? Favourite mix? Maybe?

Feeling fitter, happier and more productive today.

Such a change. The difference is so noticeable.

If you tell the kids you’re going to do something, then do it, otherwise don’t say it. I hope it’s not just us, as parents, that often fail in this.

“Fine. No more tv/iPad/toys/fun/toast for the rest of your life.”

The last weekend, wasn’t great, and Lyra said no tv/screen time for the week*. And you know what, it’s not been so bad. It’s only been two days but we’ve stuck with it and I commented to Lyra that maybe we should stick with it… Funny, how it’s turned out really.

*When the grandparents come doesn’t count.

So curly at the moment!

Wonderwall x Smalltown Boy (Mashup Cover - I like this!

I predict that Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles Cartoon Opening Theme (1987) will be my most played song this year.

1. Keep kids busy
2. Try not to go crazy
3. Try not to eat too much

My rules from day one of our lockdown/quarantine that started January 23rd 2020. I forgot to post it. So much has happened since.

Making worksheets for Maths on Monday on Saturday night is the most relaxed I’ve been all day. The kids haven’t had great days and it’s been so full on.

Elise likes these books, Daisy has an active imagination!

Loving the Tiktok Sea Shanty remixes. The electro (?) version in particular, it’s gone on my Omar playlist for 2021.

1. Watch Wandavision.
2. Discuss obvious stuff with Lyra.
3. Go online to read about all the stuff I missed.

Elise and I have copying a picture from an Anthony Browne book.

Yumo and I read a story together

Also, hot dog.

#teamconsistent

Thursday is the new Friday

Walked a new way home because Baidu Maps said we could. Took us down a random muddy path but it was a new perspective on the area we live in. Despite being so built up there’s still space around.

Elise talks about the banana laden book.

Having someone to go with makes it harder to not go and more fun when I do.

Having someone working a different level has been good too, in that it forces me to consider what I’m doing more. As I creep towards 40, I’m making choices about working out so I can work out again this week and next month and for the foreseeable future. I’m happy with the programme I’m doing, I like this quote from their website.

It is for these reasons and more that Linchpin focuses on long-term health and fitness. We want you (and your back, knees, and shoulders) to be fit, happy, healthy, and extremely capable for decades to come.

She talks about Zog by Julia Donaldson

Seth’s Blog, Seth Godin: Three types of kindness

We talk about Willy the Champ by Anthony Browne.

No idea what to make of the first 2 episodes of Wandavision honestly, but I know we’ll keep watching.

“I’ll follow you into the dark” cover by Frank Watkinson. I’ve been listening to the original recently but liked this one. Also, his house is so British and it makes me miss the place a bit.

link

Daddy’s Breakfast Diner is open. I’ll cook whatever you want as long as I have the ingredients. Midnight Diner on Netflix

The kids enjoyed the lychee and orange Oreos that have been released for Chinese New Year but I wasn’t a fan, just a strange taste.

“She’s a grown-up, isn’t she? Grown-ups and monsters aren’t scared of things?”

“Oh, monsters are scared,” said Lettie. “That’s why they’re monsters. And as for grown-ups…” She stopped talking, rubbed her freckled nose with a finger. Then, “I’m going to tell you something important. Grown-ups don’t look like grown-ups on the inside either. Outside they’re big and thoughtless and they always know what they’re doing. Inside, they look just like they always have. Like they did when they were your age. The truth is, there aren’t any grown-ups. Not on, in the whole wide word.”

…

I thought about adults. I wondered if that was true: if they were all really children wrapped in adult bodies, like children’s books hidden in the middle of dull, long adult book, the kind with no pictures or conversations.

Not sure why this passage struck me but it did and has me thinking about grown-ups and how we grow up and we’re the same but different.

Update: I’ve allowed Elise to dress herself. Mum is not going to love her choices.

What’s the quickest way to check when I bought my iPhone?

Youngest was being himself last night* so have been up since 4:30.

Fast forward to 7 and the kids are up and since Mummy is asleep we’re doing chocolate cereal with chocolate milk and now we’re going on a plane.

*Karma eh?!

Very proud of ourselves.

Not exactly the back of a lorry but close…

Operation Xmas Abs* has started again for another year.

*All very tongue in cheek but have started exercising again for mental and physical health.

I’m much calmer, things are bothering me less, I not getting hung up on things recently. Both at work and at home.

I know it’s that I’m meditating daily but I can’t quite believe it is since I only do very little, sometimes only 1 minute.

You Should Go to Bed Super Early - I’ve been trying to do this, it’s so easy to get distracted though…

Stressful week at work and then the kids not going to sleep easily last night and then not getting enough sleep followed by a day out at soft play and I am done.

Looking forward to going back to work on Monday for a rest.

In today’s ‘things that feel strange’ now… We had parents come in to school to talk about how their child is getting on.

“Amor Fati is a mindset that you take on for making the best out of anything that happens. Treating each and every moment – no matter how challenging – as something to be embraced, not avoided. To not only be okay with it, but love it and be better for it. So that like oxygen to a fire, obstacles and adversity become fuel for your potential.”

source

This is my monthly (?) thought that I wish I didn’t need an Instagram account to view “public” posts on it. I get that it’s so I sign up and help small businesses but I just don’t wanna.

When going out and eating feels extravagant.

Yes that’s a pasty, but because it’s China it has sweet potatoe noodles in!

In parenting news - Elise when Lyra offered her more melted cheese, her fav, from the pasta said, “I need to eat more pasta first.”?! - Yumo doesn’t like melted cheese from the pasta, which initially made me sad, but more for me. - Yumo throwing plates at me to wash up. Thanks dude

Yumo talks about some of the things he sees in a book. His Chinese is currently stronger than his English.

In other news, I’ve turned off notifications for Wechat and Whatsapp which normally leads me to checking my phone more just in case. Now though, I think I’m starting to turn a corner and feel like I’m overcoming the need to read messages the instant they appear.

We’ve all been ill the last 4/5 days (NOT COVID) but it’s meant I didn’t go back to work today and that I don’t feel ready to go back tomorrow. It just isn’t great honestly. I’ve not had the time to prepare and it’s just, frustrating.

Two of my favourite writed have made lists either today or yesterday. Austin Kleon has done 100 things that made my year that I’m slowly going through and picking at and Jason Kottke’s 21 things that kept me going in 2020 which I’m using for suggestions.

Laptops killed work-life balance - Saw this and it has been something I’ve been thinking about. Sometimes the convenience feels too much and I’d be better with a desktop. The thing is that I can’t be trusted!

Happy New Year everyone!

The clock ticked over just as we were putting our two to bed.

If this isn’t nice.

Does anyone grind their coffee at home? I think I’d like to, interested if anyone does?

Obviously I’m looking at things that aren’t cheap!

Our youngest’s favourite food is anything + plum sauce. Today was steamed fish and plum sauce and rice with plum sauce. Plum sauce on its own wasn’t allowed.

I like this reminder.

The parent who thinks this is an occupation you “win,” who believes it’s about those special, big moments, is missing a lot of majestic life as well. 

It’s not about the future, about getting through the terrible twos or terrible teens, on some idyllic end-result. The next milestone is not there to assure us the days of toil and hardship were worth it. We can’t forget to notice and appreciate the little pleasures of the experience, the right-here-and-now. 

Link

I always like reading John Gruber on Facebook, here he echos the Seth Godin’s piece, Facebook could do something but they just don’t want to.

Hired a lounge for the afternoon while the grandparents watched the kids.

We watched The Invisible Man which is Lyra’s cup of tea but definitely not mine.

The first rule of lasagne club is you do not talk about lasagne club.

The second rules is you can’t just have the cheese from the top. If you want more cheese then you have to eat the whole piece first.

Also, I thought Elise found the mushrooms I’d chopped up but she was just complaining about some onion.

Today was my 26th day of walking a(t least a) mile a day (in one go) in December. Tonight, I forgot to start my Outdoor walk workout on my Apple Watch but I got a buzz half way around to ask me if that was what I was doing and it had recorded the walk so far, which is cool.

I was thinking of writing a top 10 things I learned and I did honestly start thinking about that but I’m struggling to find the time at the moment. So, i’ll leave with you the two that I thought of so far.

1. I thought it would be a struggle to find the time, but it hasn’t been. Most of the walks I’ve done between 8 and 10pm. Probably a lesson there.
2. I’ve walked the same 2km route most days and that’s been fine too, I thought it would be monotanous but it really hasnt’t been. Probably a lesson there too.

As well, I’m happy with not doing any running at all, I meant to but with the walk I’m out of the flat pretty quickly as long as everything is charged and I don’t need to do anything

I keep coming back to Seth Godin’s post on social media, why it is the way it is and how it could be better. If only.

The successful people in your community or your industry (please substitute ‘happy’ for successful in that sentence) don’t act the way the influencers … do.

I can’t recommend Midnight Diner on Netflix highly enough. It’s about a small diner in Tokyo and the people in it. If it persuades you, I’m not tempted to look at my phone while watching and I watch all of the introduction. It’s nice in the way Ted Lasso is.

Happy Christmas everyone x

My Christmas resolution, which is a thing now unless it was already a thing, anyway, I’m going to read all the books I bought or was bought that have been piling up.

If I read half as much as I played on my phone, it’ll be easy…

2020 is the year of the Kind Movie — and it couldn’t have come at a better time

Also, tv because it mentions Ted Lasso and while I don’t think I agree with all the kind films I do like the idea. There’s lots of recommendations and discussion too in the Metafilter thread I saw the link.

And while I’m at it, I had meant to talk about Speed Cubers and Queen’s Gambit because they both caught my eye for similar reasons. The first is a documentary ostensably about people doing Rubik’s cube’s REALLY fast and that’s why I started it but it turns out to be about the rivalry and friendship. The latter, I just like how it resolved it in the end.

Fell down a bit this afternoon with using my phone but had lunchw ith Lyra, wrapped some presents am caught up on His Dark Materials, did a lesson of the Chinese course and cooked dinner while Elise watched Moana. So it’s not been so bad.

I’m trying to be more focused today, possibly tomorrow too, which mostly means not picking my phone up every ten seconds and using my computer more purposefully. Today’s struggle was trying to sit through of all of this TED talk without opening a new browser window to search for the speaker’s name or sending a message to someone about it. I managed it, which I’m pretty proud of.

It’s called Want to change the world? Start by being brave enough to care and I liked it a lot because it was something I benefited from hearing.

This time I woke up when the youngest crawled into bed with us sometime between 12 and 5am. Then the eldest joined us around 5:30. It this isn’t nice. I don’t know what is.

I feel like I’m better at knowing when i’m reaching my ‘breaking point’, especially with regards to my children and that point where I need to do something before I lost my patitence.

Though as I thought about writing this in my head I felt like breaking point are the wrong words since, it suggests that it’s a one time thing and not something that happens on a semi-regular basis.

I felt it today with the kids, being away in the hotel for a couple of days was nice, it really was but it got a bit much at the end.

What to do is when I notice it’s happening is a work in progress.

These two links popped up though that felt relevant：

1. Zen Habits - 8 Practices to Get Still and Calm
2. this list of things by Hope Hall when she starts to feel ‘overwhelmed or stressed or lose my center’

From the latter link is this line, which reasonated a whole lot because it says what I’ve been trying to do recently.

Try to put how you want to feel ahead of what you want to be or even do.

We’ve come to a hotel for two nights with two friends, we’re on our third bottle of wine, the kids were up till too late, we’ve not eaten much proper food, mostly biscuits, it feels as close to Christmas as it’s going to get!

Raffles in Chongqing.

Name writing

Did not like the Ted Lasso finale. It was perfect.

What’s your favourite Christmas film?

Bonus questions: What’s your favourite kid’s Christmas film?

I’d got this card for Lyra for Xmas but broke it out yesterday at McDonalds because it felt like a good time¹. I’d found it when looking for thank you cards for my team. It says, 好爱你 (hǎo ài nǐ) which literally translates as ‘good love you’ but actually translate as ‘(I) really love you’.

¹There was a staff quiz and I didn’t want to go, because at the moment me time trumps social time, but I’d had a couple of beers on the way home and it seemed like a good idea but then we stopped for Friday McDonalds dinner and suddenly it semed like a bad idea.

Yesterday I was thinking about this quote a lot:

If you always do what you’ve always done,
you’ll always get what you’ve always got.
Henry Ford

Especially as the semester has come to the end and I can’t help myself start thinking about the next one.

Yumo has a brief chat

Got gifted this. Looking for suggestions beyond eat it with a spoon. Which is also why I haven’t opened it.

I have a soft spot for some of Tiesto’s early mixes, particularly In Search of Sunrise 2 and Magik 7. Plenty of tracks that I love, I think partly because they connect me to an earlier time.

Both are on Apple Music but not Spotify unfortunately.

Just remembered that tomorrow is Trance Thursday and that has cheered me up!

We were due to fly (2 hours maybe) to the south coast of China (so not leaving China) in a week for a few days in the sun (only a few, hotel rooms get claustrophobic with 2 small children quickly) but after a few more cases appearing both in the city we’re in and around China (not massive amounts by any stretch, but still) we’ve decided to cancel (we’d probably be fine, but why risk it?).

Which is obviously a bit rubbish. Generally feeling a bit down at the moment. Mostly I’m ok with living abroad and being thousands of miles away from immediate family, but not at Christmas. Plus, it’ll soon be a year since I saw Mum and Dad when they came to visit last Christmas.

Yumo plays a clip from the nutcracker over and over.

Day 2 of writing her name

Elise has started writing her name after starting at kindergarten. Even though I teach students around her age, she doesn’t see me as a teacher, which is understandable, and I’m ok with not pushing.

I know I’ve read about Ted Lasso on here, I think @maique has mentioned it? But, I’ve been binging it this week and it’s just the best.

As a Brit, Ted’s American-ness is just not me but the way he builds people up and his kindness, especially to Nate, is a-mazing.

In other news, I upgraded to Micro.blog to the Year and in the process realised I need to be making more use of my Premium account. Also started an Apple One trial and in the process found that there’s an adaptation of one of my favourite kids books series called Stillwater.

We talk about Christmas and I try to make the most of my premium subscription!

Thanks all, Hover it is!

Where do you register your domains? Does it matter?

My 1 mile a day
Is the bestest part of it
Except cuddles, duh

This timelapse of the song Better Days by Radical Face. The technicality of it wasn’t my cup of tea but some of the words caught my attention.

Particularly…

And your head is pouring gasoline
On the person you prefer to be

Which sums it up pretty well.

Radical Face also wrote the second of three songs I used to play off an old and battered iPod Nano plugged into one of those little speaker sets that I used as my morning/wake up songs.

In order

1. Lanterns On The Lake - I will lay you down
2. Radical Face - Welcome Home
3. MOPP - Dream About You

And this was when I moved to Manchester to live in the room at the top of K’s house on a whim. Though whim is probably the wrong word, ‘because I saw no reason not too’ is probably a better way to put it. Which is also how I moved to China and Beijing and then Chongqing and then time passed and now living here is normal. When really it’s anything but.

For the last few weeks, really.

Today, I realised, maybe they’re connected?

I read a post on a forum of teachers working abroad about not feeling great about about not being able to go home at this time and that being hard.

Not seeing immediate family is fairly normal for me but we normally see Mum and Dad at least once a year, if not twice (!) and now it’s been a while and maybe that’s starting to get to me?

A mile a day continues, still only walking, building up to running, maybe. After Kottke linked to this post - (How Japanese People Stay Fit for Life, Without Ever Visiting a Gym - maybe I’ll stick with walking.

1. Read title and decide I’d like to make that.
2. Open link.
3. Look at list of ingredients.
4. Scroll page to read the rest of the list.
5. Close the tab.

The week ahead is going to be full on and I’m not feeling prepared for it going either physically or emotionally.

Andy Duguid - Be

From the latest Above and Beyond Group Therapy. This track is as far as I got and now have it on repeat. Extremely simple lyrics…

Be happy Be kind Be generous

Reminds me a lot if Raconte-moi use histoire by M83.

It keeps coming up.

Though, maybe I’m just noticing it more.

Guilty Pleasures and the idea that there is shame in the things we like - when there isn’t.

• Someone talking about the films they feel like they shouldn’t like.
• Me feeling like I should be going out - when I don’t want to.

We have a HomePod but the options for smart homes in China are cheaper - mostly Xiaomi stuff - but I’m struggling to get them to work together is proving tricky.

HomePod Mini’s are available to buy in China!

But delivery would be between the 21st-28th December.

Oh.

Day 3 of 1 mile per day. Except it was 2 miles because that’s how far away from work I live. I’m still doing 2 beers for the walk. 1 per mile. Tomorrow will be harder. We’ll see…

‘revenge bedtime procrastination’ - when “people who don’t have much control over their daytime life refuse to sleep early in order to regain some sense of freedom during late-night hours”

BBC

First time I’ve seen this but I totally get it. Except mine is work+kids.

I see all your fancy pizzas but tonight we did “wrap pizza”. Plain tortilla, bolognese sauce from a packet, sausage and cheese. In the toaster over for ten minutes. It was amazing. And all I was capable of doing.

I read yesterday about how Austin Kleon was writing about there being no finish line and talked about the Big Dog’s Backyard which is a race, of sorts, where you have an hour to 4.1677miles and if you can do that, you do it again and again and again.

the race format where you are always tied for the lead….
until you give up..
the race format where anyone can win.
all they have to do is to never quit.

It’s not surprising it’s from the man who started The Barkley Marathon. One of those things I’d never do but would like to, it’s a little out there. I like that even if I don’t like running but there was a time when a friend and I did 35miles in a day just because and that was different. Maybe because it was outside, the UK has some beautiful countryside.

Which is a round-about way of getting to my point, I read about someone doing The Character Mile where you run a mile a day. I was considering doing something, for me that’s normally burpees, so I’m going ot try and step outside my comfort zone a little.

Since I started reading it at 10pm last night I walked the 3.2km home today and that’ll have to do for the first two days. I also drank 2 beers as I did it, but we’ll see if I stick with that…

Is this month of posts going to reinforce writing? Maybe, maybe not but I’m glad I stuck with it!

#mbnov

A colleague of some student’s parents* left China and tested positive on arrival in their home country. Since they didn’t know where they caught it, on the plane or the airport or at work - they tested a whole lot of people by all accounts. Including a lot of our students. School was closed today as a precaution. We found out just not, in the afternoon, that school would be open again tomorrow and that some students will be quarantined. So yesterday and today were abnormal. We had to prepare online learning for today, sent approximately a thousand messages within our team, made a 5 page PDF in English and Chinese, had a Zoom session with 20 ish students and looked at their work that their parents had posted.

And all I can think about is how I’ve been trying to do too much and feeling powerless to stop myself. I can feel it. That I need to stop and do something that isn’t make me stressed or anxious or stressed and anxious simultaneously. That thing isn’t much - sit and watch some tv, or read or write but it would be to just do that thing. Which is where I struggle. The last few weeks haven’t been great, to be sure I’ve done some nice things but maybe I haven’t noticed. I’ve been, I am, trying to do everything I can at work and for my family and it’s been wearing me down.

It’s funny because it started when I realised that I was trying to do work and family and trying to socialise and that I needed to stop. I felt better for making that decision but now feel worse as a result. It was the right decision, is the right decision but it’s just turned out that it has seemed to be making things worse and not better. I feel like those parents on TV who are dramatically tired. I’ve never felt like that before, I do know. And maybe it’s just that work is a bit much and I haven’t been feeling a 100% either and exercise has fallen away. Who knows.

In any case, I’ve been wanted to put something down but well, I’ve been too busy. To be sure, my day is draining, I’m surrounded by small children from 6:30am until Yumo decides he wants to sleep between 8pm and 10pm. That’s hard. Being patient all day, or trying to be. Beating myself up when I’m not. The thing is, I’m not sure what i’d do differently…

So, yes. This post happened because I was finally not in my normal routine and I caught myself becoming aware that I do need to stop sometimes and that being on all day is apparently not a great thing for your physical and emotional health. Who knew?!

*those apostrophes, where JH when you need her?

It’s important to take photos when you go somewhere.

I love him so much. He’s such hard work at the moment.

This weekend has been anything but pedestrian.

Same as all weekends then…

#mbnov

Just heard my first Xmas song! Paul McCartney - Wonderful Christmastime

You just took in hiding,
from yourself always slip-sliding,
everyday a mask your wearing,
trying to show your surviving,

Wookie - Battle UK Garage!
#mbnov

The dilemma this week: Struggling to find time for myself after family and work and it starting to feel a little too much.

#mbnov

Lyra made Tiramisu and it is amazing.

Having kids you have to constantly adjust.
Now they’re mobile!
Now they’re talking!
Now they have opinions!
Now they’re picky about what they eat!
Now they go to school!
Now they love Peppa Pig!
Now they don’t!
And so and so on!

“This is a call” is a track from the Foo Fighters first album that I have a really strong memory of. Someone at school introduced it to me. 25 years this year!

This video about the hip-hop artist NF called The Power of Vulnerability stopped me and is going to stay with me a while. The talk about vulnerability and how it scares us has hit me, especially this week when, honestly, I’m not feeling great and reticent about talking about it.

Youngest managed to snap this of me reading with Elise. He apparently knows how to access the camera from the Lock Screen.

Am enjoying the BBC’s His Dark Materials. I’ve been meaning to go back to the books again and maybe will soon.

I’m grateful some of the teachers I work with always have provisions. Sometimes a snack is just what I need!

#mbnov

Been in the restaurant twenty minutes and none of the staff have said a word to me. It’s been lovely.

Ordered and will pay by scanning a QR code at the table using WeChat.

I remember when you bought the 36 exposure films. So many things to capture!

#mbnov

In the interests of science and because I’ll try anything once* I bought one of these on the way home. Well, its lot very cheesy. More like a cold vanilla latte. I was hoping for more out there and it’s pretty bland honestly.

*Pig brain, goose intestine, cow stomach, stinky tofu, durian, duck blood, chicken hearts to name a few.

Borders are a big part of our life and will continue to be. We had to make a choice for the kids which passport to get them, the same as me or their Mum. Both wasn’t and isn’t possible. That choice will continue to affect their lives for a long time to come.

#mbnov

What does everyone want for Xmas? Do you make a list with your significant other and buy each other things?

I normally buy the things I want and don’t like getting things for the sake of it so my wife always says I’m hard to buy for.

Inspired by this article little sister and I have been exchanging haikus this week. In a, let’s just see how goes, method of starting something.

Theirs are very plant orientated and ours have been very children and feeling orientated. Has it helped me? Maybe. I don’t know. I’m still no better at writing them and, as you can see in the pictures I find it easier to underline and am happy to send them not written in neat. But it has been nice to do. I like the byline from that article…

“I get a glimmer as to what she’s feeling right then, and it also gives me a way to share how I’m feeling with her.”

Here are a few…

Winter is Christmas and makes me miss Christmases ‘back home*. The build up, the food, the excitement, the presents. Living in a country where it’s not such a big thing. It’s not a national holiday here. It’s just not the same now.

#mbnov

Sometimes it feels like the thing I/you need to do to feel better is to be alone and do things alone. And today that was what I thought.

Except we had another family over and talked and had a disco and watched a film and played Monkey Bingo.

And it was just what I needed.

How to tidy your home.

1. Invite people around.
2. Say to yourself, I’ll just say - “sorry about the mess!”
3. Ignore that and tidy manically an hour before they arrive.
4. Success!

As I write that, I am grateful that we can actually do that here.

Caution!

”Untitled”

Digital composition.

Yumo 23/11/20

This week has been too much, so I’m just catching up with the Daily Dad emails. It says a lot that I actually read every single one of them.

You can talk all you want about what being a man is, about how much it means to you to be a father. But that doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’re acting that way. In each and everything you do.

You can toughen yourself up for war, you can coolly bet millions of dollars at work, but there’s nothing you can do about the gaping soft spot your kids have access to. Nothing can get you quite like they do… because nothing matters to you quite like they do. This is the hardest thing you’ll ever do. Know it. Accept it.

https://dailydad.com/

Things fade,
Eventually
Hurt us, a little less.

I spilt wine on someone,
When I worked in the pub, over the road,
I was 16.

It would keep me up at night,
Years later
For reasons I was never clear of.

Now, it’s ok,
Plenty of stuff from my 20s
To keep me up.

#mbnov

I should have loved biology but I found it to be a lifeless recitation of names: the Golgi apparatus and the Krebs cycle; mitosis, meiosis; DNA, RNA, mRNA, tRNA.

In the textbooks, astonishing facts were presented without astonishment.

I’m too tired to read it all but plan to go back to it.

I did love biology in secondary (high) school and it was exactly because the teacher focused so much on the amazing stuff biology was doing. He was forever showing us newspaper clippings or talking about something that had been discovered. That sometimes the lesson was spent doing that and was all the better for it.

I should have loved biology

Today’s entry in things I saw in the little convenience shop over the road… It’s not even in the fridge!

“We Are The Champions” on Netflix says -

’Explore an array of unique competitions, from the quirky to the bizarre, and meet their passionate communities’

The first episode is of my hometown where they, (we?) chase a big cheese down a really steep hill.

Trailer

Finally put some money towards @kottke after running out of excuses for doing so. Consistently interesting stuff that I’ve consistently been reading for I don’t even remember how long.

I worked late at school and Lyra thought she had an English lesson so we got to have dinner together while the grandparents watched the kids. When we came back I always ask Elise to say thank you to them and they always laugh.

I know why because of the time we flew to Beijing, so internally within China, and we couldn’t check in because the kid’s didn’t/don’t have visas in their British passports so - long-story-short* - Lyra’s parents had to go from their home to our flat, a 30minute trip, at 10pm on Friday night to get a document and then to take a photo of it and send it to us so that we could check in. Lyra said thank you for doing all that, and her dad laughed and said, it’s family, you don’t need to say thank you, of course we’d do it.

Though, it goes back to when Lyra and I were first going out and her very closest friends laughed at me for saying thank you when we went to visit them because, to their mind, I didn’t need to say it.

But I’m British and conditioned to say thank you at all times so it’s strange to deal with this. I ain’t changing though but it’ll be interesting to see where the kids fall!

*Their Mum is Chinese, so they are Chinese. Putting a visa in their British passport would be equivalent to admitting they aren’t Chinese - which they are. We have to get special documents every time we leave China.

Dinner of spam, quail eggs, many types of tofu and vegetables cooked in a beef broth.

It’s possible our youngest will go down without getting up repeatedly but it’s also possible I could win the lottery.

#mbnov

Possible is too often overshadowed by its siblings. The elder, ruder, sibling impossible and its cute younger sibling can.

#mbnov

“Deep listening is an act of surrender. We risk being changed by what we hear.”

Full quote

It’s getting late. My dependence on working late is not sustainable!

#mbnov

He went to work every day before Hannah went to school, and in the evening he worked at home. When Hannah asked him a question, he would say, “Not now. I’m busy. Maybe tomorrow.”

Love Anthony Browne’s books. This one is called Gorilla and has me thinking about work and family.

I’ve been on a bullet train in Japan and regularly get the fast trains here in China but while they’re speedy and efficient, I do miss the British trains and the views out the windows.

#mbnov

It feels weird to be overwhelmed but it not be COVID related. And I know it’s ok to be so.

I think maybe it’s strange because all the media I read is predominantly British and American and their daily situation is just so different to mine.

3 rounds 50 sit ups 1 minute at the top of the press up.

Total time: Not sure. About 3 songs from Taylor Swift - Folklore

I can never tell what my first memory is. Whether it is my memory or something I’ve put together from photos and hearing people talk about that time.

Now, I think about all the memories I am creating for myself with the kids that they probably won’t remember.

#mbnov

I just noticed Apple Arcade on my MacBook App Store. So I ‘think’ I could do that and I kinda like the idea. Does anyone do that?

“I really don’t mind coming into the office to work.”

Yes.

Sometimes after the weekend, it’s nice to go to back to my stressful job and relax a bit.

https://www.newyorker.com/cartoons/daily-cartoon/wednesday-march-11th-remote-work

Basically my home is as automated as it’s going to get. We can do a disco and that’s it. What more do you need?

Who says romance is dead?! Airdropping messages while out with the kids and hearts on Saturday morning ‘McMuffins’!

I like this ‘Nobody is normal’ video for Childline that I saw on @Kottke. He says, ‘I was comparing my insides to my classmates’ outsides’ - which is what we do right?

It’s making me think about the post yesterday on ‘guilty pleasures’ and being willing to like what you like.

Reading this discussion on Metafilter about people’s experiences of working from home and their work-life balance and thinking about how it relates to me.

I’m normally at work from around 7:15 to 4:30 at the earliest and often stay after 5. That still doesn’t feel like enough time to do everything I feel I need to. This weekend, I’m trying to relax and also find time around the kids to write reports and do work for Monday. Which is obviously very stressful. I wish that I had a job where I left work at work.

Being smart often has little to do with being persuasive.

Reading this has me thinking of people I’ve worked with who know stuff but don’t lead well and it’s at once great because of the benefit of the things they know and frustrating because of how they share it.

I had Pepsi today. First time in a while because I’ve finally not drinking full-fat soft drinks so much. Though, when I do it’s normally Coke and not Pepsi. And today the first sip was enough to evoke some pretty strong memories.

Memories of Pepsi in glass bottles, at grandma’s house.
A brief 2 hour drive and short 11 hour flight away.
Of the road outside - St Francois Xavier, with the cigarette factory - cinq cinq cinq - around the corner with it’s particular smell, the football pitch opposite, the shop with unusual sweets and the two large rocks for seats where family sat and talked and watched the world go by.
The creaky front gate and the alley leading to the house, as well as Dad’s Uncle’s and Aunt’s houses.
The kitchen that we always ate from but rarely went in.
The living room with the day bed where people would sit and talk and where I remember grandma being.
And the space beyond it where we slept when we did stay there and sometimes ate.
The mashed potato dish that they made and that I always used to love.
The fact it was dark and that the bed we slept on was so high.
I have such sharp, clear memories of it.
And they all came back today because we always drank Pepsi and never Coke.

I don’t do spooky films. I don’t enjoy them. It means I can’t sleep. #mbnov

Lovely afternoon in the park.

Foo Fighters - Times Likes These on Saturday Night Live.

It’s times like these you learn to live again
….
It’s times like these you learn to love again

Elise’s Dinosaur workout
🦖10 dinosaur raaaaas (lunge and go raaaa)
🦕10 brontosaurus reaches (jump and grab leaves)
10 velociraptor runs (high knees)

Loving this Tinlicker One Mix on Apple Music. I’ve got stuck listening to the second track* though. Thankfully, the track was added to Apple Music this week. Wasn’t surprised to hear they are Dutch.

*Tinlicker & Helsloot - Tell Me

I love Austin Kleon

We all love things that other people think are garbage. You have to have the courage to keep loving your garbage, because what makes us unique is the diversity and breadth of our influences, the unique ways in which we mix up the parts of culture others have deemed “high” and the “low.”

Don’t guess.

So much of my anxiety comes from this.

#mbnov

It’s been an overwhelming week in some ways between work and family. Wasn’t feeling great this morning but it has abated somewhat this afternoon.

An evening of McDonald’s and going to the cinema to watch Paw Patrol awaits!

As usual, taking something from the Daily Dad

We don’t raise tough kids by inflicting pain on them. We raise tough kids by teaching them—lovingly, patiently, understandingly—how to grow past their limits. Still, we respect those limits. We realize that each of us has different strengths, different weaknesses, and in appreciating that, we can find ways to develop them into their own unique and special self.

We create challenges for them, but we are not the challenge. No, we are their ally. We are on their team. We love them. We’re working with and for, not against them.

The places I eat.

Tonight was on the pavement next to a 4 lane road. The garlic mushrooms were excellent!

Would i wear the same thing everyday if I could? I sometimes think I would and in fact I kind of do. I always wear the same couple of pairs of jeans and T-shirts. #mbnov

Often, I feel like I have something to say but not the time to properly form it between family and work. #mbnov

Saw these in the school library today!

Being social, even online, is something I wish I was better at but have accepted as something I find difficult as I’ve got older.

With that said, getting replies from people on micro.blog is my favourite thing about using it. It’s just nice. #ifthisisntnice

Elderly. Grandparents are elderly but never your parents, I mean, until they are. #mbnov

After yesterday’s I’ll advised kettlebell workout, today’s workout was just about moving a little. Good for the body and the mind.

Some photos from the weekend. It’s a little section of a bigger tourist attraction done up in an old-ish style. We just happened across it but it was fun. They had beer!

Omar’s Law states that a probability that a child will offer the correct leg/arm/hand/foot to that being offered to put on trousers/t-shirt/glove/sock is 0.

🦖🥰😂🦄🙃🌮🙁🎄

elise

I think my issue with the challenges is I don’t like to force it. I want it to be perfect and so I often just give up because it isn’t. And now I’ve completed the challenge again, by accident. #mbnov

My experiences are
You can’t force people to change
They have to do it for themselves

I say this as someone who,
at a point,
Found myself realising,

All the things I’d done to help myself,
Had been what everyone had always said,
You can take a horse to water!

#mbnov

I’m thinking about what binds us and how those things are not the same everyone we know.

A common interest. Work. A time. An event?

How some bonds seem solid, others only temporary and others that sometimes vary.

#mbnov

Beau Miles has a new video where he drinks wine found by the road and answers questions.

I enjoy his videos a lot, I like how he thinks, the videos are easy to watch. He did one where he runs a mile an hour for 24 hours and one where he eats only beans for 40 days. Recommended.

Hot pot!

23:06 Leaving it late. I am inflated by spending time with my wife and friends this evening.

Night and day.

Lyra and I are going away for the night while the grandparents try and keep up with the kids - which I’m trying to not worry about. Elise cried as we left and I just wanted to stay, even as I know it’s good for everyone to have a break.

One of the biggest sacrifices I make as a parent is eating things so my children don’t.

Cake, ice cream, chocolate, I eat it all so they don’t.

I don’t want to but I do because I love them.

This article in the Guardian of critics admitting to getting things wrong has me thinking of what things I’ve changed my opinion of.

Tried to do a workout. First Elise joined in for the jumping jacks and burpees. Then she got bored. A little while later, Yumo joined in in his own way and sat on my back for press ups. Workout was totally ruined… It was awesome!

Picking up the kids from school is such an amazing feeling, every single time.

For the first ten seconds anyway but I’ll take it.

I am always puzzled
By my feelings for Friday
The week is over! Again
The weekend is here! Again

I feel next week’s wave
Pull at my feet
Some gentle lapping
Or maybe a tsunami?

#mbnov

(I’m posting it now but it’s a work in progress, written in a break at work)

I know The World Waits™️ and the UK is now on lockdown again but…

Both our children slept through the night. Not a peep out of either of them. This is the first time that this has happened.

If this isn’t nice!

Stoop. Droop. Loop. Coop. Soup.

#mbnov ✏️

Christmas - it either feels too early or too late, never just right.

and the word is near
but all I can think
is the opposite
of how the distances
between us, currently
seem so great

#mbnov ✏️

Phew!