Elise skied for the first time today and really took to it!
Elise skied for the first time today and really took to it!
You’re just trying to get them to behave. You’re just trying to get them to listen to you, to stop hitting their sister, to take school seriously, to whatever. So you speak firmly, even harshly. You’re tired, you’ve had this conversation a thousand times, you’re not as kind as you could be. You’re just joking maybe, just giving your honest opinion about this or that.
But you know what you’re doing, really?
You’re putting a voice in their head. That’s how this happens.
Everything we say, every interaction we have with our kids is shaping them. How we speak to them informs how they will speak to themselves.
Via Daily Dad
In other news, I’ve been trying to do no screens between 9pm and 7am.
It’s strange in that it feels good for me. At 9, I normally go to bed, read a bit and then pass out pretty quickly.
Except, work and family are pretty full on at the moment and I’m craving mindless scrolling.
This is cool
The funny thing is, my wife wouldn’t consider either of these dishes spicy. Me however I do. Can’t stop eating them though.
Indeed, the mere expression “work/life” embodies a mistake: it assumes work and life are distinct. For those to whom the word “work” automatically implies the dutiful plodding kind, they are. But for the skaters, the relationship between work and life would be better represented by a dash than a slash. I wouldn’t want to work on anything I didn’t want to take over my life.
I’m quoting this because of that last line and because of something that happened this evening. Honestly, it’s not something I’ve been conscious of before. Though, on closer inspection it’s inevitable really. That is,
Speaking to my own children as I do my students and vice versa.
For me, it’s the toll of, trying to, show patience in the face of frustration and the weight of a thousand rolling around inside your head. For me, work and home are too similar in that respect.
A few days ago, on the way home from school, my nine year old son told me he couldn’t wait to get home to write more of the story he was working on. This made me as happy as anything I’ve heard him say — not just because he was excited about his story, but because he’d discovered this way of working. Working on a project of your own is as different from ordinary work as skating is from walking. It’s more fun, but also much more productive.
Source: A Project of One’s Own
Wandering around in a digital swamp is a pretty common way to spend an hour these days.
Alas, most of us would never consider doing this in a forest. Walking over to a tree because it looked sort of interesting, standing there for a minute, then wandering away. Tree after tree, for hours.
The thing is, the digital wandering is mostly a waste.
I like this idea.
Love/hate this daily word game. You have 6 attempts to guess a word. Letters are yellow if correct but wrong place and green if it’s in the correct place.
Oliver Burkeman: What if I never change? • Hurry Slowly
Can I make time to listen to this?!
Our current thing is to say, “3,2,1 freeze” and then you have to make a pose.
How could you possibly be patient? Or fun? Or supportive? Or curious? Or attentive… when you’re dead tired?
It’s impossible.
So what exactly are you doing on your phone, scrolling through TikTok or >tweets at 11pm? You should be asleep!
I’m been not using my between 9pm and 7am. It’s been hard honestly but I do feel better for it. I’m 2minutes late! Book and bed now.
Day 78
3, 2, 1 and freeze Single beautiful moments Phone down and heart open
Somehow these photos were taken at 6:45am.
Note for a colleague.
What It Is a book by Lynda Barry
Ok one more to the “I’ll never read it” list. I should make a category.
Note to self: Start using categories.
100 Things We’ve Lost to the Internet a book by Pamela Paul
Putting it on a list of books I’ll never read but I would like to.
Day 75
Will hopefully get around to watching Shang-Chi this weekend after it was never released in China. Will see what Lyra thinks…